I’m in my late 20s early 30s. I get erect no issue tbh, i think it’s like you said, a mental shift I need to do, stop thinking about performance and just make her cum first with my hands, then after that it’s just exploratory sex to build up my sensitivity and see what I enjoy etc.

1. Yh I stopped all of the jerking off a couple weeks ago cold turkey. It definitely helps regain sensitivity, I just think I need a bit of time to adapt to the new sensation of the female anatomy.

2. Maybe a bit of alcohol like wine etc instead? I ain’t much of a smoker tbh.

3. i actually don’t have a huge issue with being turned on, she turns me on plenty tbh, to the point where now it’s just blue balls and pre cum 😂 it’s more of a maintaining the strength issue…sometimes I’m ready to go inside and then the hole is too small, so I get flaccid as a result of waiting and failing to penetrate. Then she’d ride in cowgirl and I ain’t really feeling much, so I’d switch to missionary and start to see her respond to the thrusts. A lot is probably also experimenting with the technique of different positions etc.

Yeah always the most simple response is the best, yet sometimes we overthinking some crazy wild response.

I sent the takeaway you recommended “I just hope your better in person” yesterday no response yet. This one’s gonna be a slow burner probably but are there any videos on how to progress from
Here on out because I don’t think she’s replying for a few days, I have many other leads but this one’s worth a bit of extra patience here and there.

Thanks Alex. I’ll try that one in a week or so, since I ain’t losing anything at this point, if she ends up giving more investment then cool.

I’m curious though what takeaways would have been better in this case? I know the ones I used are the last resort ones, but I thought in the moment since I’d get no reply for a few weeks it was suitable.

I want to try one last attempt before I consider this a point of no return, that’s why I’m thinking to call, or maybe even a voicenote if calling is a bit too sudden. The whole reason for her being in a strut and losing interest was me not calling or sending photos etc.

We actually had a good vibe before this. That’s why I don’t think calling out of the blue would hurt in this case as opposed to the usual protocol which is confirming before. She already isn’t replying to my messages, so if I call and no response I ain’t really lost anything have I?

Maybe a voice note instead might be the best option to be honest?

Do you guys think it might be worth calling her and seeing if she picks up? Figured if there’s any Hail Mary in this situation it might be that.

The reason I fumbled this in the first place is I didn’t call her or send photos. At least if I call, worst case she don’t pick up and I know it’s absolutely dead? But flip side a phone call might spark it again.

I did eventually send her photos, but it just seems like she’s too emotional and lost interest. Looks like it’s a lost cause now, maybe the only option is to leave it for a few months but I’d say it’s probably one step away from being blocked at this point.