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So I’ve been talking to this girl since February. Originally we matched on hinge, but she never answered me I realized we followed each other on insta, so I slid in her DM’s on Instagram. Got her number, schedule the day and boom we had a great time, scheduled the 2nd date actually that night, which I never do... Anyways I was seeing her about once a week for probably a month, at that time I had a 3 girl rotation going so that was fine. Eventually I moved her up to twice a week, to know sometimes 3 times a week. Recently she’s been telling me she wants me to be her boyfriend, and she be my girlfriend etc. I actually enjoy this girl, and have stop responding to any other females who try to hit me up. Anyways, she has never really given be any red flags.. and I am generally a RED PILL so it’s hard but I’m trying to be Purple Pill, I’d love to find a marriageable woman, anyways she’s great I enjoy her, she seems to be obsessed/in love with me, she told me she’s falling for me recently we got an Airbnb for Memorial Day, and then for the 4th we had Airbnb for the whole weekend. Now she lets me hold her phone, have her code, she really doesn’t seem to have red flags which every other girl in my life has hahaha. I would like to note, one of the only red flags think of is when we first started talking she had her Snapchat location on after a couple weeks of us talking maybe after two dates she turned her location off I asked her about it the next morning and she told me she turn it off because her friend was tracking her this was about six months ago now and we’re basically dating now but I just keep this in mind because it think it’s important not to forget. Anyways, besides this there’s really no red flags and that was in the past she could not even remember that. Now, this past weekend she presented me with a 2nd Legit red flag to me... She tells me she has tickets to a country concert at the end of August, With her old friend from work (A straight male from what I know who is our age) who allegedly they had bought the tickets before we started talking and (more than six months ago) She brought it up to me this weekend I said damn that’s a red flag and she said essentially they bought them before which I know could be BS, but she says it’s nothing. Now I slept on it and have decided what I want to do but I’m curious if anyone has any feed back... thank you!!! I was drunk at the beach, wasn’t thinking clearly. I have had some time to think about it, so I’m only gonna say this once. I don’t feel comfortable calling you my girlfriend and saying we’re exclusive if you’re gonna on dates with other guys. Unless it’s cool if I go on dates with other girls, but that’s another conversation

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This girl seems pretty curious as far as our submissive/dominant roles in bed. Not sure if she actually doesn’t have experience in this or if that’s just her thing that she does. Curious as to how y’all would respond? Thanks 💯 Need her to be comfortable enough

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This girl seems pretty curious as far as our submissive/dominant roles in bed. Not sure if she actually doesn’t have experience in this or if that’s just her thing that she does. Curious as to how y’all would respond? Thanks 💯 Need her to be comfortable enough

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How to handle a brat? Appreciate it fellas

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Very low investment responses, one or two words but seems willing to a date. How to close, and or build interest before a close? Or should I just go for a soft close “do you like wine?”

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So generally speaking when setting up dates, I tend to go with a soft wine close, if they seem compliant or down I go for their number, then the goal is to set up the date as soon as possible. My logistics aren’t the best currently, I usually plan for “a romantic wine date” I see if the girls house is an option, mine generally isn’t rn. If they say, yes all is good. If they don’t seem as dtf or complaint, I usually try to set up a beach date ( I live in Florida and this seems like a low pressure day time kind of date that has worked well for me) but open to suggestions.. anyways The two biggest problems I’ve run into in 2022 with woman is After we set up plans, the girl tries to change the frame of the date. they’ll say they want me to take them out to dinner, I don’t like when they try to change the plans. I’m curious what’s the most optimal way to handle this. The other problem, and this is a different topic but basically I’ve came to the conclusion, if after getting a girls number and trying to set up a date, if we are not able to get together within a few days, it seems to fall off almost everytime. Any advice? Thanks.

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I’m genuinely curious as to if any of y’all have found any good responses for when a girl asked me “what I’m looking for” This was on hinge and we’ve talked about splitting a bottle of wine as well as keeping decent sexual vibes . I have her number now, was going to finally get a round to see when she’s available (busy with work and had other dates) Then she double texted messages with the 2nd with the question “what are you looking for” I am open to whatever bout ideally trying to smash 🤣

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Im letting her know upfront im not looking for any more then friends with benefits. Curious if anyone has any recommendations on how to respond here?

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Basically, I liked her over a month ago she took a while to match. Now, she respond very quickly and seems interested. My question is should I take this opportunity to push and sexualize? Or should I just stick the route of “do you like wine” “splitting a romantic bottle of wine with me”

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Got to the point fairly quickly. Was out of town, had some logistic problems. She’s interested but no definite answers to asking about meeting up. How should I optimally close or approach this?

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