Are ANY Girls Actually Dateable?

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J

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J

37 Posts (+5), 21 Cmts (+3)

So I’ve been talking to this girl since February. Originally we matched on hinge, but she never answered me I realized we followed each other on insta, so I slid in her DM’s on Instagram. Got her number, schedule the day and boom we had a great time, scheduled the 2nd date actually that night, which I never do...
Anyways I was seeing her about once a week for probably a month, at that time I had a 3 girl rotation going so that was fine.
Eventually I moved her up to twice a week, to know sometimes 3 times a week.
Recently she’s been telling me she wants me to be her boyfriend, and she be my girlfriend etc. I actually enjoy this girl, and have stop responding to any other females who try to hit me up.
Anyways, she has never really given be any red flags.. and I am generally a RED PILL so it’s hard but I’m trying to be Purple Pill, I’d love to find a marriageable woman, anyways she’s great I enjoy her, she seems to be obsessed/in love with me, she told me she’s falling for me recently we got an Airbnb for Memorial Day, and then for the 4th we had Airbnb for the whole weekend.
Now she lets me hold her phone, have her code, she really doesn’t seem to have red flags which every other girl in my life has hahaha. I would like to note, one of the only red flags think of is when we first started talking she had her Snapchat location on after a couple weeks of us talking maybe after two dates she turned her location off I asked her about it the next morning and she told me she turn it off because her friend was tracking her this was about six months ago now and we’re basically dating now but I just keep this in mind because it think it’s important not to forget.
Anyways, besides this there’s really no red flags and that was in the past she could not even remember that.
Now, this past weekend she presented me with a 2nd Legit red flag to me...
She tells me she has tickets to a country concert at the end of August, With her old friend from work (A straight male from what I know who is our age) who allegedly they had bought the tickets before we started talking and (more than six months ago)

She brought it up to me this weekend I said damn that’s a red flag and she said essentially they bought them before which I know could be BS, but she says it’s nothing.

Now I slept on it and have decided what I want to do but I’m curious if anyone has any feed back... thank you!!!

I was drunk at the beach, wasn’t thinking clearly. I have had some time to think about it, so I’m only gonna say this once. I don’t feel comfortable calling you my girlfriend and saying we’re exclusive if you’re gonna on dates with other guys. Unless it’s cool if I go on dates with other girls, but that’s another conversation

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avilench . Avatar

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What do you feel like doing about it? I personally would let her know "Hey. I understand that it's nothing, you're free to do what you want. But, just to let you know I'm not comfortable with you going to a concert with a straight guy". But the issue is that you haven't really started dating her or accepted the relationship. So it's a bit tricky. Use your judgement call

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J

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Thank you, so the thing is I did accept the relationship, she’s supposed to be coming over tonight, I haven’t said anything since yesterday, was just gonna wait till she’s here in person and just be “I need to talk you about something..”

Then say ya kno, I was drunk and wasn’t thinking straight at the beach
“I’ve thought about what we talked about this weekend (dating, being exclusive) and I just don’t feel comfortable committing to an exclusive relationship talking bout you my gf I’m you bf and then you tell me you going to a concert with a “friend” I’m ngl Alex I got this girl very very invested/attracted/interested, but I would say always consider it may not be that high, this is thot behavior IMO.

The key is not sounding insecure, cuz originally I was like yeah that’s pretty weird guys can’t be friends with girls. They always want to fuck and she was like “we’re just work friends it’s not like that” anyways
Since I felt it didn’t go the way I wanted the first time, and it’s been eating at me I’m going to tell her that in person at my house tonight/tomorrow whenever she comes.

I don’t be feel comfortable labeling us as exclusive if you’re goin on date concert dates with other men idc if they’re just friends. How would you feel if I go to concerts with my girl friends from work?? Anyways lmk whatchu think

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J

37 Posts (+5), 21 Cmts (+3)

I was drunk at the beach, wasn’t thinking clearly. I have had some time to think about it, so I’m only gonna say this once. I don’t feel comfortable calling you my girlfriend and saying we’re exclusive if you’re gonna on dates with other guys. Unless it’s cool if I go on dates with other girls, but that’s another conversation

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