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Pickup has helped a lot of men. But some of the most common advice floating around will absolutely mess you up if you follow it blindly. Not because pickup is fake. But because certain ideas get misinterpreted… exaggerated… and taken way too far. Here are 4 pieces of pickup advice that will mess you up if you follow them blindly. 1) “Never Catch Feelings.” You hear this constantly: “Don’t catch feelings.” “Stay detached.” “Care less than she does.” There’s truth here. You shouldn’t over-invest too early or when it’s not reciprocated. But if you NEVER allow yourself to develop feelings, you’ll never build a healthy relationship. There’s a difference between emotional control and emotional avoidance. It is absolutely okay to develop feelings for a girl who reciprocates them and has earned your affection. The real rule is this: Don’t fall for the wrong girl. Screen for qualities that make a good girlfriend (like loyalty and honesty). You have to proceed cautiously, rather than never proceed at all 2) “If Your Game Is Good Enough, You Can Make It Work With Any Girl” This sounds empowering on the surface. But it’s largely an ego-driven fantasy. Even the best coaches in the world cannot make it work with most of the girls they talk to. A lot of girls have boyfriends, and contrary to what you might have heard, most of them are not willing to cheat with a stranger. Also, compatibility matters. Timing matters. Her situation matters. Most importantly, though, you shouldn’t be trying to make it work with every girl. Just like good salespeople don’t try to sell to everyone. Same thing here, a much better strategy is to filter out all the girls who are not compatible with you and what you want. Remember, there are almost infinite girls out there for you to talk to, but your time is very much finite 3) “Take Massive Action.” RSD used to say this all the time. And yes - volume helps. The problem is that most guys take the wrong kind of action and either get burned out or never improve. Because Incorrect action just reinforces bad habits. So, rather than use all your free time mass approaching girls, you are better off spending an hour or two of concentrated effort and then seeking feedback to make sure you’re constantly correcting your mistakes . Here’s a massive pro tip: turn on your phone's audio recorder next time you do a cold approach. You will learn A LOT just listening back to your approaches. 4) “Looks Don’t Matter” We once again turn to RSD for spreading this nonsense. Of course, looks matter. Better-looking guys have an easier time getting in the door. They also have a higher margin for error due to “pretty privilege.” The mistake some in the pickup space made was pretending that looks don’t matter. The mistake Blackpill made was pretending that looks are everything. The truth is in the middle. I was objectively better-looking in college. Yet my results were significantly worse. Because I had zero game. Here’s the real advice, maximize what you can control. Get in shape. Dress well. Groom properly. Then stop obsessing over things you can’t control, like your height or gonial angle. \*\*Full Article With Examples Below\*\* https://www.playingfire.com/dating-mistakes-men-make/

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A lot of people don’t realize this, but when you join our program, you also get access to a private Mastermind I run alongside the course. It’s an ongoing, members-only environment where you’re not guessing or going it alone. Inside the mastermind, you get: Direct help from me every single day (texts, profiles, dates, real situations) Weekly live Group Zoom calls with me A high-level community where experienced guys actively help newer members (people end up networking, becoming wingmen, and even real friends) Most guys come in for the information. They stay because they finally have feedback, accountability, and momentum. (The mastermind is available to PWF course members, and your first month is free) Important update: On February 12th, the mastermind price is going up from $49/month → $69/month for new members. If you join before then, you’re grandfathered in at $49/month for life (as long as you stay a member). The reason for the increase is simple: the mastermind has grown quickly, and because I’m personally involved every day, I need to cap bandwidth and keep the quality high. If you’ve been planning to join “eventually,” this is one of those moments where waiting actually costs you. 👉 Details / enrollment link below www.playingfire.com/sale

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Over the last year, the #1 reason guys told us they didn’t get our program (Ultimate Dating Blueprint 2.0) wasn’t doubt, skepticism, or lack of interest. It was money. Not because the course isn’t worth it, but because paying everything upfront just wasn’t ideal timing-wise. That’s why we just made a change. You can now pay in small installments using Afterpay or Klarna, instead of being forced to pay the full amount at once. No PayPal hoops. No weird approval issues. No “I’ll do it later” because of cash flow. Same program. Same support. Just a much easier entry point. If you’ve been on the fence, especially if price was the only thing stopping you, this should help massively. You can check it out here and get a refresher on what’s included: 👉 www.playingfire.com/pay-later So if you’re serious about fixing your dating life, stop spinning your wheels and take action now! Talk soon, Alex

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Older men can successfully date younger women... but only if they avoid the stuff that actually kills attraction in an age-gap situation. A lot of older guys do the obvious stuff: -get in better shape -dress sharper -make more money And they still fail. Why? Because they make a few silent mistakes, mindsets and behaviors that instantly shift how a younger woman feels around you. And once the vibe is off, it’s very hard to come back Below are the three biggest mistakes older men make with younger women, and exactly how to fix them. Mistake #1: Having Limiting Beliefs No strategy works if, deep down, you don’t believe a younger woman could genuinely be into you. This is extremely common amongst older guys, and women can absolutely pick up on it. It can show up as: a) Acting shocked that she likes you b) Seeking reassurance c) Fishing for validation That energy quietly communicates: “I don’t feel like I deserve you.” And that annihilates attraction. The solution: Normalize the age-gap dynamic You need to normalize the idea that younger women can be genuinely attracted to older men. The easiest way to do that is to flood your subconscious with proof: Fill your mind with examples of older guys (ideally not rich ones) dating attractive younger women. They’re all over social media if you know where to look. Then use a simple mental reframe when the limiting belief pops up: “If other older men can do this, why can’t I?” Also, don’t debate your insecurity. Don’t negotiate with it. Just notice the thought, dismiss it, and move forward Mistake #2: Trying to Act Young One of the fastest ways to kill attraction is trying to act like you’re a youngster. Using their slang. Forcing TikTok humor. Trying to match their energy. Women feel the incongruence immediately, and it’s a turn-off. They don’t even want you to “act young” in the first place. They want you to be more like the guy in 50 shades of grey: experienced, well put together, and dominant. Instead of proving you’re just as young and hip as the guys she usually dates, demonstrate why being older is actually better. For example, if a girl says: “I don’t know, you might be too old for me...” You can smile and say: “look if you prefer those immature boys who don’t know what theyre doing, i guess im not the man for you” If delivered playfully, that works incredibly well. However, all this doesn’t mean you can just act and look like a grandpa. Dress sharp. Mature. Put together. Mistake #3: Leading With Your Wallet This one is subtle and brutal. If early on, you’re highlighting: -how much you make -what you own -how “successful” you are You’re creating a bad dynamic. When an older man leads with money, one of two things happens: 1) a normal girl gets turned off (or offended) because it implies you think she’s materialistic or a sugar baby 2) or you meet a sugar baby who pretends to like you, manipulates you with sex, drains your resources, and then disappears when someone richer shows up. Neither outcome is good. Wealth is attractive when it’s discovered naturally, not announced. Instead of trying to “impress” her with money, build attraction with good game, and instead let her discover some other cool things about you, like lifestyle or experience. If she later notices your money, great. But don’t make it the foundation of the attraction. That being said, if you don’t have much wealth, its ok. You can absolutely attract a younger woman without it To learn the rest of the mistakes check out the full article below https://www.playingfire.com/older-men-younger-women-mistakes/

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If your dating app suddenly feels dead, this is for you. Over the last few years, dating apps have quietly changed how bans and shadowbans work. Most guys don’t even realize it’s happening. They just assume the app “stopped working.” In this guide, I’ll break down how bans actually work now on Tinder and how to tell if it’s happening to you, and what you can realistically do about it. Here’s the uncomfortable truth: You can get banned or shadowbanned on any dating app at any time, often with zero explanation. Sometimes it’s reports. Sometimes it’s automated systems. Sometimes it’s behavior that looks “suspicious” to the algorithm, even if you didn’t do anything crazy. That doesn’t mean you’re screwed forever. There are ways to substantially reduce your ban risk, which we will discuss later in the guide, and even if you’re already banned, there are workarounds. Tinder has two types of bans that guys usually run into. Tinder Hard Ban – This one is obvious. You get logged out. You try to log back in. Either Tinder tells you directly that you’re banned, or you can’t log in at all. If that happens, your account is done. Tinder Shadowban – This is the sneaky one. With a Tinder shadowban: -Your account looks normal -You can still swipe -If you’re paying for Gold or Platinum, you will continue to get likes But nothing converts. No matter how much you swipe, you don’t get any new matches. And every time you try to swipe right on a girl who already liked you, you’re greeted with an error (Note: if you get an error only some of the time, it’s just a glitch and you need to restart the app) Another sneaky thing that happens is when you message a girl you have already been talking to, it looks like the message went through, but a day later, you see no history of it. How to Tell If You’re Banned or Shadowbanned on Tinder? Gold/Platinum users: Errors every time you try to match a girl who liked you = shadowban Free users: Messages disappear the next day = shadowban Logged out + can’t log back in = hard ban How to Get Around a Tinder Ban or Shadowban Whether it’s a hard ban or a shadowban, the fix is the same: you need to start fresh. (Appeals almost never work.) You need: 1) A new device – you can get a burner phone for $30 on Amazon or eBay 2) A new phone number – Google Voice is the easiest, but if your country doesn’t have it, I recommend an app called “Hushed”. They give you a new line for $5 a month 3) Other extra safety tips – Slightly change your date of birth. You don’t need new photos, but cropping them by 1% can help. And if it was a shadowban, delete your account and wait 24 hours before recreating it That’s usually enough to get back on Tinder To learn about how to get back on Bumble and Hinge, check out the original article below https://firetexts.com/how-to-get-unbanned-on-tinder/

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Most guys lose girls over text, not because they’re boring, but because they don’t know what to say next. That’s why I built FireTexts. It’s like having me in your pocket when you’re texting. For the next 48 hours, FireTexts is 25% off on all subscription tiers. Once you lock it in, that price is grandfathered for as long as you stay. Want to test it first? No problem - every plan includes a free 3-day trial. Install for free: Apple Android

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Our flagship course, Ultimate Dating Blueprint 2.0 is 20% OFF until December 26th. This is the program that’s helped thousands of men fix their dating life, from more matches → dates → results. Holiday-only bonuses (over $250 value): 1) Two FREE months in our private Mastermind (weekly Zoom calls + direct access to me) 2) 1,000 FireTexts AI credits to upgrade your texting instantly 3) Personalized profile review from me (voice memo included) Once this sale ends, these bonuses are gone. 👉 Details + access here: https://www.playingfire.com/buy-product Just two of our many student results 👇

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A lot of dating advice for men and manosphere talking points are dead wrong. Today I want to break down 7 pieces of dating “wisdom” you’ve probably heard before and explain why they’re mostly bullshit. If any of these surprise you...good. That usually means it’s worth reading. 1) Dating hasn’t “gotten worse” the way people think There’s this popular belief that dating was great for hundreds of years... and only recently went to shit. That’s factually false. In the 1700s, Jane Austen was writing about women choosing charming, unreliable men over stable ones, long before dating apps In the 1800s, people didn’t “ghost”... they deserted. It was so common that newspapers ran ads from abandoned spouses trying to locate partners who literally vanished, changed their name, and remarried. In the 1900s, Dear John letters were normal. Women regularly ended marriages by mail while their husbands were overseas at war. People have always cheated. People have always made selfish choices. People have always had their hearts broken. Some people also had great marriages, just like today. A lot of guys romanticize the 1950s, but here’s the reality. You often married the first girl you slept with. Ask yourself honestly, would you want to marry the first girl you ever slept with? For me, that’s a hard no. Women were also deeply unhappy in many cases, medicated at massive levels, and expected to suffer quietly. (If you want a good depiction of this, watch Revolutionary Road.) Technology changed. Human nature didn’t. 2) Dating apps didn’t ruin dating Before apps, people dated coworkers, friends, church members, classmates, or neighbors. It wasn’t that people behaved better — they just had fewer options. Dating apps didn’t make people selfish or disloyal. They revealed who already was. More choice exposes: Who lacks loyalty, who chases novelty, and who doesn’t know what they want That’s not an app problem. That’s a human problem. Apps are a magnifying glass, not a poison. If apps truly “ruined dating”: a) Attractive, socially savvy men wouldn’t succeed on them b) Women wouldn’t form relationships through them c) People would have abandoned them entirely - and no, Tinder showing a user drop doesn’t mean people quit dating apps. They switched. Hinge, for example, has grown 38% year-over-year, along with many niche apps. The real problem isn’t apps. For men, it’s not understanding photos, messaging, and how to set dates. For women, it’s not knowing how to communicate what they want and effectively screening out guys who don’t want the same thing Apps work if you understand human nature instead of fighting it. 3) Women don’t communicate nearly as well as they think There’s this cultural assumption that women are “better communicators.” Not exactly. Women tend to communicate emotion – how they feel in the moment. Men tend to communicate information – facts about the situation. And both sides are terrible at translating for the other. Communication is a skill that needs to be developed for both men and women. One of the biggest causes of poor communication and relationship issues in general is a lack of self-awareness. People simply don’t realize how their behavior affects the other person and are incapable of truly putting themselves in the other person’s shoes. And that’s the hidden cause of a lot of failed marriages and relationships 4) People who “won’t settle” usually end up alone There is no perfect partner. Every relationship has trade-offs. The goal isn’t perfection... it’s fit. Who shares your values? Who adds far more to your life than they subtract? Red-pill guys obsess over cooking and cleaning, but those are trivial. You can pay someone to do your chores. But you can’t pay someone to make you feel loved, someone to grow with, someone who will be by your side no matter what. Those are the things that actually determine long-term happiness. to read the other 3 important truths, check out the original article in link below* https://www.playingfire.com/dating-advice-for-men/

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Hey guys, quick reminder our biggest sale ever is still live, but not for much longer. If you’ve been on the fence, I want to share a few REAL results from guys who were in the same exact spot as you before joining (see images below) While I can’t guarantee everyone will get laid the same night as getting the course, what I can tell you is that if you follow my strategies, I promise you will significantly improve your dating results, like thousands of guys from across the world already have. You will get a higher quantity AND quality of matches. More Dates. More Hookups. Or if you prefer a hot girlfriend. Don’t spend the holidays jerking off all alone, do something. For Black Friday, I decided to give you a massive discount. You can get my highly rated program for 25% off. This also comes with access to our exclusive Mastermind Group, where I will personally answer every single question you have and guide you to success. So don’t miss out on this opportunity, because once Black Friday is over, the price goes back up. https://www.playingfire.com/blackfriday/

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For a limited time, you can get my entire Ultimate Dating Blueprint 2.0 + Mastermind access for the lowest price we’ve ever offered. If you want better photos, better texts, more matches, and real coaching... this is the time to jump in because this is the biggest sale we have ever done and won’t have anything like this for a while 👉 https://www.playingfire.com/blackfriday/

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