Pickup has helped a lot of men. But some of the most common advice floating around will absolutely mess you up if you follow it blindly.

Not because pickup is fake. But because certain ideas get misinterpreted… exaggerated… and taken way too far.

Here are 4 pieces of pickup advice that will mess you up if you follow them blindly.

1) “Never Catch Feelings.”

You hear this constantly:

“Don’t catch feelings.”

“Stay detached.”

“Care less than she does.”

There’s truth here. You shouldn’t over-invest too early or when it’s not reciprocated.

But if you NEVER allow yourself to develop feelings, you’ll never build a healthy relationship.

There’s a difference between emotional control and emotional avoidance. It is absolutely okay to develop feelings for a girl who reciprocates them and has earned your affection.

The real rule is this: Don’t fall for the wrong girl.

Screen for qualities that make a good girlfriend (like loyalty and honesty). You have to proceed cautiously, rather than never proceed at all

2) “If Your Game Is Good Enough, You Can Make It Work With Any Girl”

This sounds empowering on the surface. But it’s largely an ego-driven fantasy. Even the best coaches in the world cannot make it work with most of the girls they talk to.

A lot of girls have boyfriends, and contrary to what you might have heard, most of them are not willing to cheat with a stranger.

Also, compatibility matters. Timing matters. Her situation matters.

Most importantly, though, you shouldn’t be trying to make it work with every girl. Just like good salespeople don’t try to sell to everyone.

Same thing here, a much better strategy is to filter out all the girls who are not compatible with you and what you want.

Remember, there are almost infinite girls out there for you to talk to, but your time is very much finite

3) “Take Massive Action.”

RSD used to say this all the time. And yes - volume helps. The problem is that most guys take the wrong kind of action and either get burned out or never improve.

Because Incorrect action just reinforces bad habits.

So, rather than use all your free time mass approaching girls, you are better off spending an hour or two of concentrated effort and then seeking feedback to make sure you’re constantly correcting your mistakes

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Here’s a massive pro tip: turn on your phone's audio recorder next time you do a cold approach. You will learn A LOT just listening back to your approaches.

4) “Looks Don’t Matter”

We once again turn to RSD for spreading this nonsense. Of course, looks matter.

Better-looking guys have an easier time getting in the door. They also have a higher margin for error due to “pretty privilege.”

The mistake some in the pickup space made was pretending that looks don’t matter. The mistake Blackpill made was pretending that looks are everything.

The truth is in the middle. I was objectively better-looking in college. Yet my results were significantly worse. Because I had zero game.

Here’s the real advice, maximize what you can control. Get in shape. Dress well. Groom properly. Then stop obsessing over things you can’t control, like your height or gonial angle.

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