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I tend to put the fast swipe apps like Tinder and Bumble (but esp Tinder) into the just "looking for hookups" category, while things like Hinge, Ok Cupid, Coffee Meets Bagel (is that even still around?), PoF, Match, etc. are more for actual dating and getting to know the other person better. Is it fair to characterize these this way, or can you still find more casual DTF type chicks on Hinge and more serious or "nicer" girls on Tinder? The impression I get from the kinds of profiles on each app seems very different, and they go in different directions. Do the same kind of approaches that are outlined here in the Tinder guide work as well for Hinge, or do you have to be a bit nicer and more subtle with the girls there? Cause that's how I've done it; the jokes and openers are less risque and more "PG", because so are their profiles.

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Say if you screwed up your profile with bad pics and a lame bio and your score for the algorithm got so lowered that you're not seen by anyone but average or below average girls and barely get decent matches anymore... do many of you guys just delete and recreate your profile through some other method? I did that once (initially FB, then recreated through phone number, with an age 2 years younger since I hit 30 but could pass for a lot younger). I notice for the first week or so I got a much higher number of matches, but then I devolved into bad swiping habits (indiscriminately swiping, and changed my profile around in a way that turned out not to be great), so I basically ended up in the hole again. I hear you can get around the dip in score by recreating about once every month, or just go three months without using. Is this an effective thing? How sustainable is it in the long run? Do you need to get new fake numbers each time? I feel like the first recreate is easy, but after that it gets tough finding alternate options. Also, you can't re-enroll in Gold with the same card or Apple ID. But say if you're earnest about a profile makeover following the pic and bio guidelines from PWF, is it a good option to start at an even level, rather than having to slowly and painstakingly crawl your way out of the hole? Is it possible to get out by just improving your profile without resetting it? Also, since you can't get verified with these recreated profiles, I wonder, how important is it to be verified on Tinder from a girl's perspective? Does your profile really take a hit in some regard, either to them or in relation to the algorithm? And finally, does a similar thing apply to other apps like Bumble, OK Cupid, POF, Coffee Meet Bagel, Hinge, etc? Thanks!

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Having looked at many of the videos, I get a sense that this emphasizes the aggressive, dominant kind of male vibe when showing people how to craft profiles and talk to women on these apps. That's fine and all, but what if that just isn't your own style, or doesn't mesh well with it really? I'm interested in learning how to bring out my own self in this, not just making a profile representing someone who I'm not simply to get laid. And it's not like I can change my personality overnight from being an introverted, intellectual slightly geeky dude to being some alpha bro dude like Alex. I have a feeling I could try it but ultimately it wouldn't be convincing and they'd find out I'm faking at some point in the process... Or is that really the only thing that works on Tinder (or at least works the easiest)? The kind of women I'm into aren't necessarily the cookie-cutter hot model types that many dudes are into.

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