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Posts by Night Roller

Joined 4y ago

"Newbie to cold approaching, just trying to make myself comfortable with expressing my sexuality. I'll make many mistakes, I'm sure, but it's better than not trying at all. Learning good text game seems almost as hard as learning math proofs. If this were a class, I'd be failing, but improving steadily."

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Final Match to Narrow Down Photos for Tinder/Misc OLD Bio

Hello fellow forum-users, I've eliminated down to ~15 photos (from over 130) to find out which is best suited for editing/preparing for a Tinder or OLD profile. I've accumulated some votes from female friends on which of these pictures are best, but the consistently favored ones are all ones where I have the plaid with a black t-shirt, and I don't want to include more than 1 or 2 of those. https://photos.app.goo.gl/qnY264N3aV7AN6738 So if picking a set of 3-6 pictures (probably 5), which ones would you recommend including? Which ones might you say "absolutely do not include"? What kinds of photos am I missing that should I aim to get in future photoshoots? Thanks in advance. Keep slaying it out there, -NightRoller

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Girl eyefucked me, then lost interest over text?

I mean, I don't blame her. I'm not super calibrated or experienced in texting yet. To set the context, I saw this girl in a cafeteria, with a strong eye contact that just felt like "damn, it's on". Went up, mentioned something about her jeans being ripped the whole way down. Was pretty nervous, ended up saying "would you like to go on a date?" in the first few moments. Her response was "maybe", and I realize it was an invitation to give a bit more comfort first, but I just got her number and name and bounced, I was so nervous. Anyway, I worried if she'd even reply, but had enough interest to do that much it seems. But my attempts at humor are falling flat so far and I don't know where to go from here. In negative compliance territory.

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Infield videos. How do you take them?

What strategies do you use to find decent cameramen, or what kinds of cameras can be used for doing self-videoing (and how can it be hidden)? Any articles you know of on this? Tried researching how to do this, but the only results were just pickup videos that had infield, rather than "how to infield video".

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Replying to sudden mention of a boyfriend

Girl was someone I approached IRL in a dining hall. I was tired, but felt like I did good at creating emotional spikes and we even Roleplayed a little (My first text was an attempt of callback humor to that). I thought there was a good flirty vibe going on, I'd already told her she was cute and stuff during a 20 min conversation when we met, and up until the last two texts it seemed like it was going well. I thought a dinner date was almost guaranteed. But yeah, you can see by the screenshot that either I didn't screen/sexualize well enough, or she got cold feet. I was thinking of sending something I saw here like "all good, let me know if something changes and ya want some cuddles", do you think that'd be the best bet here?

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First not-100%-flakey number

Alright boys, Finally got a response! Not sure how many numbers it took or cold approaches to vibing I did, but here we go...

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Looking for Reviews of Louis Farfields' "Over the Top Game"

I've gotten his emails about it, but it's hard to know much because I don't know anyone who has used it exactly. (See screenshot of email for more info on which person/method I'm talking about. More screenshots can be added in the comments.)

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Laugh at my sorry ass (convo in screenshot)

All my numbers so far have been flakes, but this takes the cake. I really need to work on how polarizing I am and how much I show intent in person, if most of my numbers don't even reply.

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(Shitpost*) My most active number yet

*This could have some value, but I'm not looking for nor giving advice for this. Beta habits hard to break, but I wanted to share this with someone. Initial meet during cold approach was warm, and I even thought her response rate and frequency was good, but looking back, she definitely wasn't interested in anything related to dating. Still, I guess I'm learning? But yeah, I just felt like shit and wanted to share what I might text her if she does end up curious. I've lost interest in pursuing her, she's pretty introverted despite being kinda cute, but rephrases of what I plan to say in response to an anticipated text might be useful for helping me readjust my frame of how to think of the interaction.

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How to reply to "not looking for a relationship" in cold approach/text

Hello again PFW community, Many of the girls I come across who don't have boyfriends give me a variation of that line to decline. Obviously part of it is from my own inexperience with building comfort and attraction (which I'm working on), but what could I consider using in that situation to make it less than 0% possible? Also, what sorts of things would you recommend to try before suggesting a date/asking her number which could reduce the chances she'd say something like that, e.g. giving her room to chase?

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Awesome numbers and approaches day (report)

Since starting to cold approach 3 weeks ago, I've been going out and meeting girls every day. Today, I think I'm at the point where it's starting to feel more natural, and I could start branching out and away from having the same old phrasing and awkwardness, and lean more into being confident. Before today, I'd made a connection (enough to have their phone numbers) with about 5 girls total. Today, I approached 11 total women and got 5 rejections, 1 "neutral" interaction (which I count anyone who reacts positively or negatively, but who I don't ask to go on a date nor get the number of nor get rejected by), and 5 more numbers, which feels incredible to me as someone who considered himself awkward around girls. September 7th, I can feel good about my efforts for today. Leveling myself up bit by bit. *edit: still awkward with girls, turns out. Old habits die hard. Not stopping me from trying tho

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