Comments by Jay Mill
Joined 5y agoI mean you know where you fucked up man. The laundromat type of girl? Like I don't even understand that reference but the way it comes across is making her sound poor. When she double texted about Jerry springer= message I would have just given her a genuine response of what the joke was. To her you sound like an entitled wealthy punk.
In general, don't say shit like that could be misinterpreted for you down talking her. I would have gone with something like "making sure your sexiest outfit is ready for our date?(insert smirk face)". Think about it this way, if she had said something to you that would make you feel like she felt she was above you then you would be like either fuck this chick or oh she's being brat and I need to flip the frame. Girls don't try to flip the frame in this situation they just say fuck this guy.
you'll have to share some recent examples. I haven't noticed any more flakiness then when the weather was worse but I would consider myself pretty decent at moving them forward to a date.
hey I'll read the rest of this but you should cut her number out so it doesn't show up.
I started using feeld last month and had no results (I have 8 lays out of 600 matches in the last 2 months from tinder and bumble so it’s not my pics)
I haven’t cracked a he code yet for feeld but it feels like single white guys on there aren’t really what is in demand.
My buddy met his fiancé on "The League" app and she is very attactive but I think it might be more relationship focused.
so a couple of thoughts.
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have you concerned trying 2 weeks without the deep fakes? I think you would feel better about it without them and it wouldn't mess with your mental game as much.
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Your text game is on point but after reading many of your fail reports and even some of your lay reports I think a lot of women get an incongruent version of you in person both looks and vibe wise. Like you sound in text like a seasoned dominant man with extreme confidence and I get the feeling that isn't always what shows up for these girls in person.
Alex has a good amount of cold approach number closes on his channel. I'd suggest not going straight for the number. Vibe with her, ask her what's she's doing right now and get logistics on where she lives how long she's in the area etc and also build commonality / sexual tension. I think the best "normal" approaches are like 5-15 mins and end in a number close with a date seeded in. I know instadates / day game pulls happen but they are extremely rare.
The interactions that are the least firm are the ones that are less then 2 minutes and you go from 1-2 quick vibing topics to asking for her number and asking her to get drinks. The flake ratio on this will be super high.
so one of the keys to Alex's game is not putting up hard single dates when scheduling or ultimatums unless its an absolute last resort.
Your line where about going to the movies was terrible.
You should ask a girl what her schedule is like that week and figure out a day that works for you both. A better example would have been. "hey, have you heard of ABC movie, I am dying to check it out. What nights you free this week? we can hang out after and chat about it at my place."
However a movie is also a terrible choice for a date. Drinks (alcohol or coffee, making dinner for them at your place, splitting a bottle of wine (or just chatting and getting to know each other if you don't drink) or going for a walk before brining her back to your place are the only options you should use if you haven't had sex yet. Once you have sex you can do stuff like activities or dinner / lunch or movies or whatever. Save the movies for your friends.
Don't set ultimatums Its really bad. Also don't say "if you're going to be stuck and play hard to get then I'll say yes to someone else. " That is really really bad texting.
Then after that you get super gamey for no reason. The fact that you still have her chatting is small miracle.
Just ask her what her schedule is like this week and see what days are best for her to hangout. Pick something other then a movie or dinner.
so being in the same situation as you I can tell you will miss out on tons of girls who would be down for casual hookups. I have explored this by telling girls and the vast majority that are into something casual are not also still into it if you tell them you're in an open relationship.
It may be a small sample size but you will get swiped left by a ton of women if you put it on your profile. I would say if you really want to them try doing it int the conversation before the date and see what reactions you get. Mine were pretty negative.

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very very minor but I would wrote it as one message and soft closed "Yes, good girl. So do you like wine?" Then gone into the soft wine close. She gave you compliance so there was no need to say the I still have a lot to teach you line.
Reengage in like 4-5 days with maybe a 50 shades suggestive gif (if its tinder if its bumble use a meme pic) and say this could be us.