Why do you guys think that dating in America is so competive?
Hey guys,
I was watching the discussion between Alex and Qbwillie. I agree with both that in America is "Hard mode" when it comes to dating. I have experience it for instance, when talking with girls from Latin America and Eastern Europe, that while game is important. I did not have to be a "game master" to succeed. In fact, the girls would be forgiving if I made mistakes. The same can not be said America. This is not a "bash" American or English speaking women thread. Don't take me wrong. But rather I wanted to hear you guys and Alex's explanation as to why he thinks this happens.
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I think it just has to do a lot with the options a lot of girls have now in America. Plus the modern feminism that's becoming more and more popular. It doesn't help that a lotta simps white knight on behalf of women over tiktok. So, there's this massive ego feeding culture that overblows the looks/value a girl has. And because of this dating as a regular guy gets difficult.
Another contributing factor is how easy it is for girls to now have access to the top guys from literally just IG. They are being bombarded with offers from big city millionaires/celebrities to be flown over. All of these makes dating in America hard but absolutely not impossible
yeah imo its just a status thing. Traveling from America says a lot about the person off the jump, #1 he has money, #2, he travels, #3 he can bring access via American Passport, #4 different etc
this is not even counting the good profile, game, etc he probably had to develop gaming in the harder country.
Like some dude coming in from another high value country to America with a "cute" accent might have a slight edge here. But it wont match some 1st worlder going to the 3rd world
I suspect it has to do with how men are socialised to behave towards women. In western countries, men on average are simping and giving up their time, money, and attention easily for women, thinking that this is how you win them over. The overall lack of boundaries and self-respect from men means that the value of male attention has plummeted.
You only have to look at the average/fat/obese girl tinder experiments on Alex's channel to see how men are tripping over themselves to validate average or even disgusting women. Not to mention OnlyFans and Twitch thots. Every single woman in the West right now can get a large amount of attention if they are using social media or dating apps. As a result, they have become extremely choosy so you need to be exceptional in some way to be able to get them to invest in you.
This is gradually changing in South America, Eastern Europe, and other countries, so they will be on hard mode too eventually. It's going to be insane to watch where things go in the West if men don't realise their own worth soon.
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It's just they are poorer in these countries. Your SMV is just lower in the US because you need to make more money and drive a nicer car here to be considered successful.
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how the fuck are there 3 replies and no one mentions the obesity epidemic plauging the USA.
its hard mode becuase literally half the female population is fat and undateable/unfuckable. On my tinder, i get ~30 likes a day and literally 80% are whales/chubby. i end up with 5 or 6 decent matches. meanwhile i go to brazil, peru, or just about ANY south american country and 90% are at least very fuckable and would be 6.5/10 MINIMUM to US standards. Women in most other countries at least value looks.
Non fat bitches know they are in short supply and get their pick of the litter (good looking, 5'10+, good game, mildly financially successful).
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JMULV alluded to this as well. He said that the pool of attractive women was smaller hence they were way more picky. While if every chick is hot like in Argentina or Colombia then being hot doesn't matter since they know that the others are hot as well.
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yea its not in his interest to go in depth about this subject and advocate for travelmaxxing. that takes away potential business from US customers buying his system, which is the overwhelming majority.
dating in the USA is like playing musical chairs now, you have a pool of 100,000 decent looking normal guys competing over a relatively small percent of non fat/attractive girls. there just arent enough cute girls to go around for everyone. most guys are gonna get stuck dating fatties becuase the cute girls get snatched up very quick.
if you want to game in the US your looks and game needs to be better than all her other options which is tough, the bar is set much higher. Money doesnt mean much unless youre well above the average (200k+ income). being funny and entertaining is super important and most guys lack in that category more than anything else. at least thats what i hear from girls. i bag like 7-8 girls a month on average now but id probably be considered a "chad" based on my SMV