What's the best way to tell her the truth about my profile
Ive been seeing this girl for about 2 months now and on my tinder profile my age was 29 but im actually 36 so I was wondering how can I tell her the truth about it in a way she won't get upset? There will be a bigger age gap that I think she might be concerned about because she's only 22. Is there an ideal way to bring it up without it being such a big deal like "oh btw you know i didnt put my real age on tinder right?" and then just tell her?
damn, you know you can hide your age on tinder? that is a better play imo
1 thing I know for sure, is girls care way more about honesty than age differences.
There are actual studies that show men peak at 50 on online dating
https://www.nytimes.com/2018/08/15/style/dating-apps-online-men-women-age.html
anyways, good luck, let us know how it goes.
Do you see yourself getting into a LTR with her?
Yea I didn’t think it would be serious at first because I only saw her once and then we didn’t even hook up until a week later, now we keep meeting once a week and it seems like we could be in a relationship. That’s why I feel like I want to tell her the truth now, i just don’t know how to bring it up to her because she never brought it up to me.
She only asked me what my birthday was on the first date and I told her the month and day but never mentioned the year and she never asked me. I don’t think she would care about the age just more so about me being honest and not trying to lie about it so I just wanna tell her the truth before continuing on with her. Any suggestions on how to casually just mention it without making it seem like a big deal? Like just ask “Do you even know the year i was born in?” And then just tell her “Then just so you know I was born in xx” and then change the subject?
Are you still matched on Tinder (or wherever you met)?
It's quite common for people to lower their age a bit. If you hadn't talked much about the age and you're not matched anymore, you could do what you said. Just mention it/bring it up in conversation and act as nothing happened.
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Well, there's unfortunately no good way to tell her. It's just about picking the least bad way. The one thing that I would keep in mind is that if you act like it's a big deal, she will think it's a big deal. Conversely, if you think and act like it's completely trivial and irrelevant, then she will likely treat it that way as well. Hope that helps
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Yeah definitely man thats why I was wondering what would you say would be the least bad way to tell her?
I was thinking just asking “do you know the year I was born in?” Or “btw what year were you born in?” And then say “Nope I was born in...” and then just change the subject and ask her another question and just act like its not even a big deal at all. I’m gonna do this in person, so it will be better. If she questions me about it further I’ll just say “we never asked each other about the year we were born, so thats why I asked now.” Or do you have a better suggestions or do you think this is fine?