I’ll try keep this short. Need help with what to Message a chic I’ve had sex with twice.
Met this chick Friday, hit it off and went back to her place with her and her friends. Slept with her the same night for approx an hour and she claims to have finished, complimenting my oral skills. (This was my first time)
I leave 10m after as she falls asleep. Message her the following night and we make plans to see each other again sometime in the week.
Sunday night I’m out with friends drinking and dancing and accidentally bump into her again. She immediately starts grinding on me, friend practically forces us together and we make out. We go back to hers and have sex, but it was bad. 2 hrs, no one finished (potentially the booze) and it just wasn’t working for either of us. Eventually we cuddle and fall asleep. I choose to stay because I thought it might redeem the sex a bit, so I leave the following morning after spending the night.
Fwb/potentially relationship would be ideal but I’m not sure what/when to message her after this bad sexual experience. Any ideas?
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Just text like you would normally. Assume that the sex was good anyway and text her the way you would if that were the case
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Well you could have also tried to go for morning sex as that had been a real attempt to redeem
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Nothing. Don't draw attention to what you perceive as a negative. You have NO idea what's going on in her head. 2 hrs... she may have enjoyed it. You may THINK she didn't... but you don't truly know. But as soon as you draw attention to being a bad experience, it will cement it in her head as a bad experience, and she will feel like shit about it. Just learn from your poor form and be better next time. Sounds like you're both very young... so every experience is a learning experience. Some advice, the best position for a woman to cum is her on top, grinding her entire pussy on you with your cock fully in her (key word grinding, not bouncing on it). The best position for a man to cum is her flat on her stomach, legs together, you on top (you can vary your angle and leg position based on muscle fatigue in many different ways without stopping).