What should I have done better ?
Hi guys,
I had a date with this girl last night and I couldn’t close. But we did made out. I asked when her when I’m going to see her again and she said today she will be free after her errands and we can grab some food. We had a good vibe and good chemistry. This was the last conversation and just now she sent me this low investment text. Ima little confused. And then she text me saying sue already made plans with her friends. That’s pretty fucked up and I’m so confuse. Can someone help me to analyze this. What did I do wrong , What should I have done better and how should I proceed now ? Thank you
@Alex
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393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)
Yeah man. This is actually very common. When you go on a date with a girl, and you don't close, they typically on some level lose respect for you. In addition, you made the situation worse for you by chasing her over text. She has all the power and she knows it and typically when people have the power, they will "Abuse it". You can try just disliking her message and see if she double texts
118 Posts (+42), 716 Cmts (+312)
I would have proposed a plan or idea the night before instead of saying to plan in the morning, right after she said sure you had a chance to build on the commitment by laying out a plan and not doing so have her a window to do what she did
Yeah you are right. I realized that after bro. I thought since it’s too late set up the plan yesterday(next day). Can I do anything to move forward here? I didn’t reply just liked her message
118 Posts (+42), 716 Cmts (+312)
I’d wait 3 days and Ryan gosling meme, banter/vibe a few texts then go for another soft close
I know exactly what went wrong simply from reading the first two sentences here. You didn't close but made out. That's actually a deadly combination to never seeing the girl again. You're in a situation where the girl likely has high anti-slut defense because you got close to sex but she rejected you + she will backwards rationalize why sex didn't happen and come to the conclusion that there was not enough chemistry etc... So honestly your chances of seeing her again aren't very good but it doesn't hurt to try anyways.
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I actually think the problem is when you said let’s hang out tomorrow.
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Dude wtf a good morning text . Don't simp reply. You're coming off needy to back off for a bit and go for alternatives . Always have back up options. You're also being way too nice,so she's taking advantage. Nice guyish