What are your guys' stats? Just curious to see how everyone is doing with online dating?
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This seems like a good place to get some honest accurate numbers and see how I can compare my experience with online dating since September. It would probably help every guy to know the odds we are up against. I live in a rural area and want to move to a larger metro/college town. So I'll go first.
Me (male/30/caucasian)
Match to lay ratio = 11% [2/18 matches]
Opener to 1 response ratio = 73%
Opener to 2 response ratio = 36%
I should add that one of my two lays was me randomly running into a girl I matched with on tinder and approaching her, had I not somehow met her in person I guarantee it would've been another dud.
How are you guys doing in this bullshit game? Leave a comment/humble brag of your results !
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there's nothing wrong with asking this question, but the underlining theory is flawed. Some guys will have a higher success ration because they play it really safe and only go for girls that make it easy. This will create a false sense of success. Also a girls looks is very hard to quantify objectively. A guy can sleep with a dozen 5s or two 9s. And it may seem like the first guy is crushing it.
In general even when i was super active on tinder, i never looked at my success ratio or my swiped to match ration. The only thing that matters is the end result. And potentially how much time you need to spend to get that result. But even that, can take you down the wrong road. Just my 2 cents
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thanks for the feedback Alex, I appreciate a nuanced response. And yeah I get what you're saying. I was kinda just wondering what the general "mean" or middle of the road stats are for most guys. Like I want to know if it's more worth while to just resort to daygame/night game compared to the apps. I personally have been very picky about my age settings for apps and maybe that's hindering my results, as I am mostly interested in college aged girls, even tho alot of girls who swipe right on me are 25-29 range. And just because a girl is older than 22 doesn't mean she can't be as or more attractive than a girl who is younger. Also what I personally consider attractive and 'my type' could vary greatly compared to the next man.