WEEKLY LIVE Q&A (Sunday 5PM-7PM EST) with ME & Special Guest************************

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avilench . Avatar

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avilench . Avatar

393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)

Welcome to the weekly live Q&A with Special Guest

Have all your questions answered in real time by the creator of PWF and Indian PE (If you're not familiar with him, check out this 2 part interview I did with him)..

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PIN8SOjOd4U

This will start Sunday May 19th at 5pm EST and go for 2 hours. Just write your questions below in this post. See you guys then :)

Alex

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Big Daddy Avatar

16 Posts (+66), 242 Cmts (+331)

Indian PE Who has better game overall, David or Alex? And would you like to break down our style of game?

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Indian  PE Avatar

19 Posts (+84), 522 Cmts (+198)

David obviously. I'd love to break down David's textgame some time. I don't mind Alex's breakdown either

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V

13 Posts (+9), 79 Cmts (+26)

I'd love to see that. I think the question was not regarding text game tho.

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Matt J Avatar

16 Posts (+10), 56 Cmts (+17)

How do you make her qualify more on text and how do you know when the green light is to go for the "Do you like wine?" soft close?

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avilench . Avatar

393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)

Oh man, this is a lengthy topic. A lot of it is also on a case by case basis. Check out this article, it will give you a good amount of insight:

https://www.playingfire.com/how-to-build-compliance-sexualize-over-text/

Also, check out some of the Love Reports on the main site for specific examples
In terms of when to go for the close, a lot of that is also on a case by case basis. I have developed a pretty good spidey sense of knowing exactly how "bought in" a chick is at any given time throughout the interaction. There are several factors that go into play. Is she trying to fuck tonight? Is she foreign or American? Who opened who? How straightforward does she seem? Generally speaking though, before going for the softclose I will throw in almost like mini soft closes to gauge her buying temperature.

Here's an example,

Girl: "You have sexy abs"

Me: "Thanks, I'll let you rub baby oil on them"

If she says something like "Oh when is this gonna happen?"

Then I know I can go for the close pretty soon. However, if she goes in the other direction and says something like "Haha. We'll see about that" or "Haha. So tell me about yourself", then I know I need to build a bit more comfort and investment before I go for the close

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Christian . Avatar

4 Posts (+2), 7 Cmts (+5)

I don't see much content / many people asking about this: What's your general mindset when it comes to creating an 'Emotional Flip' through text. Namely, changing a girl whose perhaps pissed off / moody ---> making her laugh & open-minded to meeting up?

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avilench . Avatar

393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)

It's really hard to give you an accurate general answer, because it's really on a case by case basis. Sometimes, not saying anything or significantly delaying your response to be the best course of action. A girl sends you a feisty text and then suddenly doesn't hear from you. At that moment, she might not care by 20 mins later when her mood changes, she suddenly starts sweating over her text. Did she go too far? sometimes she will double text you or sometimes, she will make a subconscious mental not to "Text you with more respect"

In terms of texting, I view it as each individual text as a nudge instead of a big push. You slowly want to nudge the girl in the right direction, which often involves buying into your frame. The things that I'd never do are "Get needy. Apologize, start buying into her frame, etc"

If you have specific examples, post them below and I think I can give you a much more concrete answer

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Christian . Avatar

4 Posts (+2), 7 Cmts (+5)

Is there anything you'd suggest for me in particular with trying to get as good at texting as possible in the minimum amount of time? Is there something which you did that you'd highly suggest I implement?

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Indian  PE Avatar

19 Posts (+84), 522 Cmts (+198)

There is never an optimal way to do something. However, with the resources available, you'd stumble lesser than if you took the least effective path. I'd just focus on SMV and getting better pictures so you can get more matches and fail a lot more to learn from those failures

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M

0 Posts (+0), 3 Cmts (+3)

What would you recommend to a newbie who wants to get to the intermediate/advanced level as soon as possible. How many nights a week? How many hours? Focus on career, or game?

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avilench . Avatar

393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)

It really depends on where exactly you are at and what your sticking points are. Age is also a factor. Generally, career won't directly help you get laid. Not saying it's not important. But, pursue your career because it's something you're passionate about, or because you want to make more money, but don't hope that a career will affect your sex life directly

For getting laid? I would focus on the following 3 things

  1. Increasing SMV. Getting dope pics
  2. Learning game.

Number 3. How fast 3 would happen. Some guys learn game super fast and for some it takes years. If you provide more info about yourself, I can give you a more specific answer

Also, this should go without saying, get the pwf product, it will teach you a lot of important shit very fast

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Christian . Avatar

4 Posts (+2), 7 Cmts (+5)

Apart from standup comedy, is there anything else which significantly helped develop your witty vibe through text?

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Indian  PE Avatar

19 Posts (+84), 522 Cmts (+198)

A lot of comedy shows as well. Mostly tv and entertainment. It's like therapy for me. If a girl harsh flakes on me, I just throw my phone away and watch family guy

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M

0 Posts (+0), 3 Cmts (+3)

Hey guys

My lay count is 51, I am 28 y/o. I get complimented on my good looks often, but I feel ugly. I feel like girls are lying, I have never gamed, never actively approached or done day game, or night game. The few times I have gone out to night clubs I have been too much of a pussy to approach, the last time I went out it went fairly okay. I approached two girls and we have deep immersive conversations for about 30-40 minutes, grinding, making out, pulled one and got the lay. but i dont know how I did it.... I dont have a system. same thing with texting. Just thinking about approaching strangers gives me anxiety lol. I also put alot of weightage on my own looks, have gained weight recently and dont feel as confident. I keep telling myself that when I get the 6 pack I'll go and do hardcore game.

The other thing I struggle with is seeing guys that are objectively not as good looking as me pull good looking girls and it baffles my mind, I get jealous not going to lie, and it baffles me. I feel like I am very looks-oriented and dont have a lot of confidence in my own either regardless of what people say. I have tremendous approach anxiety with strangers, group sets are no-go all the time. I feel like I am quite insecure. What should I do

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avilench . Avatar

393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)

It all starts with getting the PWF blueprint. But aside from that, you need to do some serious work on reprogramming your mind. There are several different things you mentioned, which are separate issues but also intertwined

First off, don't wait another day. The "I'll start approaching when I get a 6 pack" is a lie you're telling yourself. You need to start taking action today, not if or when this or that happens. Don't beat yourself up, you're not the first person to go down this line of rationalizations. In fact, I have a close friend who constantly does this sort of thing. And today, he's exactly where he was in the same place where he was at 5 years ago. Because, excuses breed more excuses and action breeds more action

Adopt the right view when it comes to sexual market value. And the right view is what I'm about to tell you right now.
Yes, looks absolutely do matter. So does status. So does style. So does all that shit. However, game also matters. Also, the girl's type matters. For instance, I could have better game and look better than my friend, but if the chick is really not into white blonde guys, but is into whatever the fuck my friend is. He'll probably get the lay

So what should you do? Focus on both maximizing looks and developing good game. In order to do the latter, you need to approach. Thus, you should be approaching while you're working on your six pack. I also recommend progressive deconditioning. If group sets make you largely uncomfortable, then start out by approaching girls who are by themselves. Then after doing that for a week, approach 2 sets. and so on....

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M

0 Posts (+0), 3 Cmts (+3)

Ok, this is great advice Alex, thank you so much! I plan on buying the PWF. Is there value in finding good mentors and a "tribe" of people in the community. I am finding it hard to find wings here. and dont know if all wings relatively the same or not.

@IndianPE would also love your insight into my original comment as I am a minority as well.

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V

13 Posts (+9), 79 Cmts (+26)

what do you think what are my biggest mistakes I should improve on?

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Indian  PE Avatar

19 Posts (+84), 522 Cmts (+198)

You understood some of the textgame aspects but you lack calibration

You don't have to learn everything from the girl by just her pictures or profile, if she asks something, it's always going to give you more information than on the surface.
Probably learn how to sexually DHV yourself in person. Learn that first and then using it at the right point in the interaction will come in naturally

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V

13 Posts (+9), 79 Cmts (+26)

Great thanks! Any tips on improving calibration?

"You don't have to learn everything from the girl by just her pictures or profile, if she asks something, it's always going to give you more information than on the surface"
a bit confused with this one, you mean learning about her by the questions or way she asks questions?

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Aaron Johnson Avatar

10 Posts (+141), 139 Cmts (+107)

Niiice, this is gonna be fucking insane!

My question: How do you deal with cold streaks on Tinder? How often do you have them these days?

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avilench . Avatar

393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)

I have a pretty good profile at this point, so legit cold streaks don't really happen. It also helps that I can go out and get leads from daygame

For other people, I recommend on trying to get as good of a profile as possible. Using other apps. And learning cold approach

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Indian  PE Avatar

19 Posts (+84), 522 Cmts (+198)

I do get them. Everyone does.

"What happened to our love?"

"I hope you're happy with your new love"

"Ah.. It all makes sense now"

"You're a trans. My bad"

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