Sudden ghost after big investment

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R

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Not sure how to play this and would appreciate any follow up text/action help. It’s a weird one.

I’d known this girl via OkC for a while, got back in touch with her last Oct but she had a bf however was having issues with him.

We met whilst she was still with him and nothing happened. Then broke contact. She then recontacted, they’d split up, she asked if I wanted to hookup and we met early this Jun. Straight away we were kissing/groping in the park. She’d bought me expensive champagne and cake for my bday. Seemed very invested. Got the uber back to mine, but she stopped things before sex saying she wasn’t “mentally ready” and didn’t want to explain there and then.

She text me later explaining last time she had sex there’d been a traumatic thing happen (I wont go into detail). I was cool with it ofc and we arranged to meet again. She cancelled so we re-arranged for last Thur, then she cancelled again citing her incoming period, then told me she needed to go back to her parents for a bit. As she didn’t tell me specific dates, I asked her what her schedule was like and she didn’t respond. I followed up with a voicenote which has been left on double grey tick since Sunday.

She’s gone from buying me presents, sending me topless gifs of her and telling me how horny I make her to grey ticking me inside 2 weeks. Instinct is to just leave it, but any ideas on the right call out? Yes she could be busy at her parents, but at least tell me, and don’t leave me grey ticked.

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avilench . Avatar

393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)

"Hey. If you don't want to meet again, lmk and you will never hear from me again"

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R

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Well she replied with “Thank you Rob. I’ll message you properly tomorrow. I hope you’re good X” so this basically looks like the setup to bad news lol

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avilench . Avatar

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"You too"

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R

14 Posts (-1), 37 Cmts (+2)

Well I did this and I've been left double grey ticked for 10hrs thus far. Wuss move IMO, esp having known each other so long. But I get the picture.

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R

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Thing with this, I already gave her a very similar ultimatum after the way she went about her first cancellation, which she didn't like. Saying she has a low threshold for drama (despite it not being very dramatic). So not sure I wanna repeat something similar so soon, I may just re-word it slightly

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avilench . Avatar

393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)

Upto you

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“Weirdest ghosting ever”

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