Im in a Tough spot and Don't know what to do. Iv been wanting to contact My ex from 2015. It's the girl I love and I know that. We didn't have a nasty break up or anything like that. We kinda just went our separate ways. When we where together She ended up pregnant But she had a Miscarriage. We haven't talked sense 2015 and i think thats because of How hurt we both where and our pride. Now she has a kid and is dating some guy. (not the Baby's daddy) I want to message her and see how things are going. I really do care for this girl and would do anything for her. Im ready to put my pride to the side and reach out. What should I do. Wait till she's single or Just reach out and see how things are going?
25 Posts (+8), 75 Cmts (+22)
I think this is a very personal topic and I appreciate you sharing that. The rule that I live by is they are your ex’s for a reason. When you say she is the girl that I “love”, you’re in love with the memories not with her. Also, as cheesy as it sounds there are millions of girls out there that are going to make you the same or even more. My advice: you can reach out to her and see how she’s doing, but don’t expect anything. Focus on yourself and dating other people
6 Posts (+0), 18 Cmts (+1)
Facts, Go into it with No expectation. Im not sure If the "Love" Was from the memories. I was/am generally in love with the girls soul and just the way she moves Through Life.
Would it be disrespectful to Message her and check in knowing she is in a relationship at the moment or Should I hold off till she's no longer in a relationship?
4 Posts (+6), 48 Cmts (+17)
This is less of a matter of what we think and more of a matter of what YOU WANT.
We are not you. We do not have the feelings that you have for this girl.
From the outside, I would be like "fuck that shit mate, get over it! Start meeting more girls and stop going down that route"
But you're going to be stuck with only two choices:
A personal take - if she already had a kid, AND is in another relationship, shes moved on wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy beyond you already man.
You reaching out to her will probably confirm that you both not being together was the right move and you'll never get a chance back.
In my opinion, its time to improve your life (gym, books, friends, activities, etc) and move the fuck on. Get over this shit.
4 Posts (+6), 48 Cmts (+17)
Appreciate you sharing your personal feelings but I agree with Camilo.
Time to move on.
You're in love with the memory of being with her.
I've been there before and realized I'm not with my ex for a reason. No need to re-pursue. There's many women out there. Let yourself have a chance at winning at life with another person.
If anything, focus on building a network of new friends, find a new hobby, binge watch PWF videos and try new shit. If she's the only thing that's on your mind all day, that is a very low value way of thinking.
You got this shit.