she didnt test ur frame in my opinion. I would probably never know what red flag means if i didnt see someone used it here before. She didnt know either

I don’t recommend ever bringing up something negative. Why even talk about red flags and put that idea in her head. If she brings it up, then you address it but not beforehand

don't ask about how POF/tinder/etc is going, it's the ultimate admission that you have nothing to talk about. you can either play the game or talk about the game, not both.

she blew your frame apart with one lol... what part of "how's POF" is within the "teasing you about being trouble" frame?

none of your messages were on point. this conversation was already mighty sketchy before your last message.

if I got handed that conversation and had to try and save it, I would ask something super-normal to reset and prove I was capable of non-gamey human conversation... honestly "how's your week been" stuff

however since I'm personally not capable of non-gamey human conversation and the interaction's already toast I'd be:

"It's that hair, it just"
'just what'
"just looks like it should have the wind in it on my motorbike, or"
'or whatttt'
"or I bet you secretly like when a man slides his hand through it and pulls"
'actually yes lol'
"knew you were trouble"