Strong reopening
2 Comments
2 Cmts
3y ago *
Hi guys,
recently I tried to reopened in quite weird way, that could show some neediness and frustration, but 3 on 6 girls responded and they are now more active.
I said: "Staying on an dating app and don't answer neither to the first message, are you here just to get some attention and approval?'
Few of them also said "sorry your question is fair but I've been busy with ... ..."
Is it a good option to keep in mind or it's a bit rude and they answered just because I touched their ego?
22 Posts (+6), 78 Cmts (+27)
In my experience re opens rarely work in the first place, and I could just write "fuck you" and it would get drowned out by so many messages from other dudes. I totally feel you on wanting to tell girls stuff like this, and it's true that many girls just want validation from dating apps, but it does convey bitterness which is not an attractive quality, I'm a bit surprised you got this high a response rate. Perhaps try something more playful and positive like, "sending out search party for cute (adjective) girl," or a funny gif/meme with no need for response would work better.
7 Posts (+1), 16 Cmts (+1)
Honestly I'm ashamed to say, I've been working for a month with an Italian dating coach that promised amazing result (not better than the ones I had for 900 euros 6 hours of calls with tips), and as a re-opener made me write this bs...
To me it sounds needy and desperate ("another girl is not giving a fuck about me, give me some attention I'm a cute boy"), when I send messages like this is just to provoke arrogant girls that I'm not planning to date anymore.