6 Posts (+10), 188 Cmts (+18)
You can make the date happen if you just fall back, relax, and remain patient. You shouldn’t keep pushing for the date after she says she can’t make it. If she wants to come over, she’ll tell you. Just change the topic by putting some sexual thoughts in her head. Be patient, build up tension to get her to want the set up the date with you.
the "so whats the problem" text seemed a little pushy. For what to do now I would juts follow up in a day or 2 w/ something like "thinking hard I see"
Man if something silly like that is a turn off then I'm not even gonna bother chasing it...on to the next one
8 Posts (+10), 580 Cmts (+268)
Haha unfortunately it's all about how a girl perceives it. I agree with you, I don't tend to chase after girls who don't communicate, are passive-aggressive or get turned off by little shit like that. However, it's good for future reference if you're ever talking to a girl who's very attractive and who you hit it off with, except for a little thing like that. You wouldn't want that to be the reason you don't get to at least see where it goes.
It did sound a little aggressive from an outsider's perspective so what you can do in the future is a soft call out like "you don't seem confident.." or "if you're too nervous, I understand"
Again, unfortunately, you can rarely be your direct self and get to the root of the issue. I'm very much the same where if I have a problem or think there's some sort of problem, I just ask and think nothing of it but people can take that as an attack, sometimes inadvertently (often combined with other factors in the moment, she's stressed, that time of the month, family, school etc.).
Regardless, wait 3-4 days and say something like "Not a trick question I swear;)" or "Thinking hard I see.." ALSO -> do not be afraid to reset the conversation a little and ask her how she is/re soft close, it can be very helpful to take a couple of steps back to recalibrate the convo to ask her out on a high note so to speak.
Anyway, lmk how it goes! Hope this helps bro.
393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)
"Don't be shy now".. On a side note, I'm not a fan of you asking for new days straight away. You should have playfully called her out with "Breaking my heart..."