Girls not wanting to come over straight is totally normal. Plenty of creeps and rapists on tinder and out there. Just meet in public, near your place and then you can bring her over.

You did good deflecting her first "serial killer" concern.

You messed up right here: 'Why don't we go somewhere a tad more public for the initial meet up ;_:' she said

You responded with meeting straight at YOUR place after she declined to meet you at HER place. You need to own this goof-up by saying "my bad" or something then suggest a bar you know of locally.

"Not what I had in mind lmao"
"Don't worry, like I said I gave that up for New Years. Ever been to "Applebee's?"

OR

"Not what I had in mind lmao"
"Girl's name". I understand ;) Have you ever been to "Carlos O'Kelly's?"

*all those restaurants were placeholders for places you know locally to grab drinks and only drinks at

Yeah. This is a combination of her being overly dramatic and you also not properly replying to her text. If a girl says she wants to meet somewhere in public, you're not gonna be able to get her to come over. At that point, you just gotta be like "Ok cool. I know a fun bar nearby"