Trying to get this girl to commit to the date
We agreed to hang out a few weeks back, she flaked the day off with a shitty excuse but asked if we could hang out the next day - I rejected this and proposed another time which she agreed on. Our city went back into lockdown so we had to reschedule for another time. A little messaging back and forth during this time, I kept it pretty distant but she would initiate contact more than I would. She messaged me a few days ago asking how I was and saying she was thinking about me and whether we should risk breaking the lockdown rules and see each other - I said yes and I was supposed to go to her place. The day of I asked if we were on, she said she was a little nervous and I dug a little deeper to find out what her concern was, apparently she was worried her neighbors would call the cops on us as we were breaking the stay at home order. I told her I didn't really care. A little back and forth banter and teasing, I proposed two other days to hang and she replies to all my texts but won't answer that particular question.
Getting to a point where it feels like she is wasting my time. I am thinking I arrange a call with her to build some more comfort and then pull back and try to re-arrange?
Any suggestions?
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I’d try to set another concrete day. She’s comfortable with you. Her main concern is neighbors finding out. Address that. I’d say, “nobody will find out I’m there. We’ll be quiet. If you really want to hang out, l’m free xxxday evening”. That way you can move on if she’s wasting your time and using you as text buddy during lockdown
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I thought letting her decide if she wants to see me was smart, but that means I'm not leading - thanks for picking that up.





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Just reschedule for another day man. Re-engage tomorrow or so
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Thanks Alex. How do I get purchase access to the Mastermind group?