Hey bosses,
as it says in my profile Im fairly new to this. One thing I have been noticing while using Tinder is a rather long reply time between messages.
For me it has been one or two messages back and forth per day with most girls. When they take a long time replying i obviously dont reply immediately either then, just to not appear needy or make the impression that I have nothing going on. Which isnt the case anyways - I just notice messages, emails etc. on my phone quite quickly. However I dont try to match their reply time either (I think that'd be stupid).
I get that girls probably get a lot of messages and will take some time to reply + are not on the app constantly. But I still get the impression that there is some ulterior motive behind this - kind of like "playing hard to get". When I see the text convos in Alexs videos for example, it seems like they reply much faster. How is your general experience with reply times?
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Occasionally I’ll reply immediately instead of waiting. Sometimes it will spark a constant back abd forth.
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Does Tinder show you if the girl is online or when she was last online? If so, I would stick to messaging matches who are online.
By doing this on various dating apps, I've gotten good response times (sometimes within minutes) early in the interaction. However, like you I've dealt with slow texting as time goes on. Definitely interested in hearing more about this topic.
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Im not sure, never paid attention to online status. But will look out for that now, sounds like a good tip.
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It may feel like that, but believe me, some chicks take a while to respond to me as well. Your approach is correct. You're not insta replying, but you're also not OCDing about it. Personally what I do is I just reply to people when I'm free. Since I'm pretty busy, that means I won't be replying pretty quickly. Sometimes, I will intentionally delay my response to see if a girl will double text if I feel the situation calls for it. But, this is after I move the conversation over to text or whatsapp
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When you delay intentionally Alex, how long do you usually leave it, like a day or hours?
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More like a few hours