Really strong start then now 50/50 towards the end
So matched with this girl. She’s in my town (1mile away) for the next few days then going back to uni so limited time.
I moved to text thought I did everything well, with her moving towards meeting, good banter etc, slowly sexualised but I feel I missed out a good text or did something a bit wrong somewhere because the way I setup the date it fell off pretty quick
I suggested we meet at the gym & she wasn’t sure and then I think I kinda fucked up by reducing all the ambiguity or something and going all logical when she pulled back.
What should I do now she’s given me “I’ll have a think about it” and I said “sure why not” sort of vibe? She might reply tomorrow but what is the direction I should take going forward to get her to meet before she goes back?
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Yeah, so you made the mistake here of suggesting a gym date. That's a horrible location, and a lot of girls just feel awkward about that. Dates should always be either the girl coming straight to your place or a drink at a bar. That's it, no other options.
Also, your last text wasn't the best; you kind of left the ball on her court. I would respond with something like "You don't sound confident."
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Hi Alex - thanks. What would you say here? Would you follow up or leave it? If she doesn’t reply now how can I restart it?
I said to her gym date as she was suggesting it and it’s basically the main social place in my town, literally very common for everyone to go But then realised it’s not very good.
I then said we can also meet at mine but I never gave the option of going for a drink either.
Would something like “been thinking, third option: we meet at XYZ bar for a drink before you go back” if she hasn’t replied by the 4pm the next day?