Really need help. What's my best option after over pursuing a girl and her backing away?
Been seeing this girl for a month and a half. We've been on 4 dates and had sex each time. I realize I've been over pursuing her by trying to make dates, texting too much, and not letting her come to me. Her reply times are getting longer and longer, and she canceled our last date. Even though she asked for another date, she hasn't responded when I went to set one up.
I feel like I have two options:
- Just leave the message be and wait to see if she ever responds
- Do a more "extreme" takeaway. Something like "Hey, I'd like to see you again, but I like spending my time with someone who is excited to see me and appreciates my effort. I'm just not getting that vibe from you. Take care. "
I really like this girl, but I'm not afraid to walk away. I'm just not sure what the best option for this situation is?
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393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)
Yeah. I'd just leave it. This is unfortunately a common issue guys have. Overvalidating over text, not giving her space to chase and invest. And letting her cancel on you. It should be the other way round. you fuck the shit out of her and get her to come to you when she's horny. And if you're not horny at the time being, you just reschedule on her
23 Posts (+4), 187 Cmts (+71)
Option 2 that you gave yourself comes off butthurt.
Reading the texts, you should have let that doctor's note message cook. Making her sweat and either she will reply by insulting you or apologizing for the inconvenience. Immediately following with JK shows you can't handle any tension, too worried about the outcome of saying something wrong. So you want a "walk away" text, here it is:
Well, you have my number let me know. Get back to me when you're ready to go out
and with that you do not text her again unless she texts you
68 Posts (+17), 38 Cmts (+4)
Thanks for the reply.
She ended up texting me back, but didn't give me a day she was free. She said she was in a car wreck and had to figure things out with getting a new car. I waited a day to text her and she texted me back after 5 minutes with pics of the accident. I'm just going to play it cool from now on and not mention hanging out unless she does first. And I'm not texting her at all until she texts me
34 Posts (+1), 203 Cmts (+77)
Any update with this?