Oh, just now seeing that you've seen that vid. Don't ask questions that everyone probably asks her. That would be boring and doesn't lead the conversation the direction you want it to go. Ask probing questions that lead down the road to them opening up. Topics like, how adventurous they are, what their biggest fantasies are, what are their biggest turn ons, stuff like that. Be direct, most girls appreciate that. Weeds out the time wasters too.