NEED YOUR OPINION
So as a beginner ;
I am getting over my approach anxiety!
I got rejected 4 times today because they have boyfriends with them but it was hard to understand that they are dating or not. I got 6 numbers in 20 min. Also I always went for the 8 or above and the thing that I realized that sure there are so many girls out there ho gon reject but also there are so many who is down for a good time but the thing that I don't understand is; the big deal is getting the number or being able to close? Because I make my intent clear and when I get the number I say that '' Well if you behave we might go on a date sometime'' they laugh and shit then I leave. On my last post, I talked about the situation that I got in; it was on a date with a girl who has a bf and everything was going good yet I pussy out to kiss close her. So I set up a date with another girl for Thursday to my house to cook and drink wine etc. This time I really want to seal the deal or even if I can not have sex I want to be able to kiss.Ps: I am a virgin. What could be the date structure for a house date?
393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)
Damn bro, 6 numbers in 20 minutes is really good. I wouldn't even think much of the bf thing since that's just the reality of cold approach. Nothing you can do about that. In terms of your upcoming date. If the chick is coming straight over, then your chances are SIGNIFICANTLY higher than if you're just meeting her for tea. You're off to a good start. Go into it with the assumption that she wants to fuck and that the game is pretty much won.
She comes over, get her involved in the cooking and make something easy and light. Avoid lots of carbs and heavy sauces, because it will make her sleepy. Also, have some good music playing in the background. I'd recommend chill EDM or reaggeton. The idea is that you're already half way through the cooking by the time she arrives. Pour her a glass of wine and joke around. You can use the cooking as an easy excuse to escalate "So if you look at that spatula over there, you can see that it's really really good for mixing." You get the picture
Then, eat the food, drink some wine and escalate some more. I talk about this in one of my Youtube videos, but escalation is really just a matter of turning the girl on and moving things forward in the most optimal way. Touch her knee before you kiss her. Kiss her before you take her shirt off. Suck on her tits before you suck on her pussy (Some exceptions to that one). Just, don't stress it or try to micromanage every detail. Go into the mindset because she's coming over and she likes you and wants to fuck you.
Good luck man!
21 Posts (+7), 38 Cmts (+8)
Ayyyy thanks man to be honest big thanks to you because you encouraged me to keep going by telling me where am I doing wrong with all your honesty. But every day the first approach gives me so much anxiety like after the first one I kinda relax but the first a few are always pain in the ass for me. I hope I can get over it by time and I totally understood your game structure. So if she is down to come then she knows wassup. I have to keep it chill and escalate and don't try to make every little detail so perfect.
7 Posts (+1), 95 Cmts (+8)
I have huge respect for you, I've done lots of approaches over the years but still am afraid to go up to a girl. Well done 6 numbers in 20 minutes.
Having the courage to do it despite it being a pain in the ass is amazing man. If the girl already agreed to come over you don't have to worry that much about doing everything perfectly.