Let me know when you’re free - no reply after over a day
Had a great first date in corner of cosy candlelit bar - great banter, laughter, flirting and very similar interests. Lot of investment from her side - plenty questions from her. Talked for three hours. Then hugged and parted ways.
Texted her I got home safe and checked if she did (she mentioned it when parting ways)
Next day at 1pm I sent “Name, thanks for a great night last night, I enjoyed your company. I would like to see you again if you’re interested”
To which she replied “me too, yeah that would be fun 😊”
Hours later I said “cool, let me know when you’re free :)”
It’s been over a full day and there’s no reply.
What would you do?
I understand she’s busy with work like me, and may not know when she’s free but I generally like a reply at least. Since I have first chatted to her online we would send one message a day so she is a very slow texter if that’s anything to go by.
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Yeah man. That's not the best text to send "lmk when you're..." coz you're putting the ball in your court. "What's your schedule like" is better. However, it's only been a day. Give it at least a few days and follow up with "Don't think too hard now"
Thanks man, I used your line. She wrote back within 5 minutes.
“Sorry been a mad week”
“I am away for two weeks so the 30th might be my best day?”
Todays the 12th. How would you play this? What would you say. It’s a long time.
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You have to keep the conversation warm, this doesn’t mean text her all day everyday, but don’t wait until the day before she comes back and say hey are we still going out tomorrow
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Wait another day, then hit her with “ don’t worry it’s not a trick question”
Or another one I find that works is ?....
Either one should work
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Not kissing her, and telling her you made it home ok(she doesn't care), makes you seem like too much of a nice guy. Being brutally honest, this one might not go your way. You need to escalate earlier, and when you're texting, don't do the nice guy routine. In future, avoid stuff like "if you're interested" - that makes your interest in her contingent on her interest in you. This will make her feel uncomfortable. Instead, just try to make plans - if she's in, it implies she's interested. With your method, she's committing to making plans again without knowing what they'll be. Chicks hate that.
I would sit on this for a few days. Then text her something like "damn, had a busy few days. could use cute company and a drink soon. come join me." if you get a positive answer, you're still in the game, otherwise move on to another girl.