you dont wanna come off as overtly frame controlling. nor do you want every message to be qualifying qualifying. some lighthearted banter and generally fun vibing is needed too

Yes, it was a bad text because it likely made her scoff and go “fuck this guy”. The common theme that I see time in and time out is over gameyness and its not effective. Imagine, you were somewhat interested in buying a house and the realtor was asking you these super obvious salesy questions you’d be turned off. It’s the same thing here