Issue with an insecure girl
So this is a chick I banged on a wine date a few days ago. After the sex she told me she was hesitant at first to let me escalate because in her experience whenever sex happens on the first date it always ends up being a one night stand, even when the guy tells her he's interested to see her again. I told her I'm not interested in one night stands and wanted to see her again. As a show of good faith I got her number right then and there (she didn't give it to me before). I probably should have closed her on a new date at the same time, but for some reason I told her I'd hit her up later. This was probably a mistake considering how insecure she was. I hit her up the next morning and here's our conversation:
Me: Guess who
Her: You š
Me: Well you're not wrong š
Her: Correct š
Me: How's your schedule this weekend?
Her: I have nothing planned for Friday or Sunday
Me: Okay we should meetup on Friday afternoon then
(24 hours later)
Her: Yeah
(12 hours later)
Me: How does 4PM sound?
Her: Sorry I can't because I'm too sore from a leg workout with my personal trainer š©š©
Me: Sounds tough
Her: It was
Me: I forgot to ask, how long are you staying in my city?
Her: I'm leaving on Sunday š
Me: Oh damn. In that case we'll have to meetup on Sunday before you do
(36 hours later)
Me: Unless you prefer a one night stand...
Her: I don't but I partied too hard yesterday and something weird happened to my stomach and now I feel really nauseous š©š©
Me: Sounds like a hangover š but my point was the 2 hour drive between us is gonna make things a bit hard
Her (voice note): I visit your city very often so... it's completely up to you if you want to meetup again or not (she sounded depressed)
Me: I definitely want to meetup again. Like I said I'm not a big fan of one night stands. Feel free to hit me up once you get back to my city
Her: For sure! I'm glad to hear that š
I'm not very convinced she's going to hit me up once she does come back though. I think she might be hurt and in some kind of auto-rejection mode because I noticed she updated her Tinder bio to say "looking for something serious" even though on our date she specifically told me she doesn't want to get into a relationship yet. What's the best move here if I still want to see this chick again once she comes back to my city?
There's not much you can do at this point. You've done all you could have and it's really upto her to hit you up once she's back. I'd get her IG and just let her see your stories and maybe you could reach out to her when she uploads a story if she's back in town

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Probably just wait till she hits you up