Is she being a brat?
I noticed a pattern of her suggesting her own place and time instead of mine. That wouldn't be a problem, but the red flag is that she's not asking if we could do another place/time, she's directly saying "we can meet in ...", "too late", etc. Is that reasonable for her to do?
Btw we're in the southern US, so at 7pm it's already pretty dark
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Final update: I sent her the cocky text, then she requested dick pics which seems super uncalibrated and it's still unclear whether it was genuine, a shit test, or trolling. So I made her work for it. And no, I never sent her dick pics, even though I said "atta girl". Couple weeks later, I tried asking her out for a walk near my place, but she kept insisting on her own favourite bar. So I suggested she take me out to that bar, but she got offended. And at that point, I became so turned off that I was like, fuck this girl, she's a waste of time, but I still wanted payback for the fact that I payed for 1st date and she's still being a brat. So I pretended to agree to "take her out". Except on the date, I made her pay for both, which was 3 drinks and an appetizer (1st date we each had 1 drink). No action, but I was so satisfied with this turn of events, it didn't matter anymore.
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i dont actually see her suggesting her own place anywhere. from what i see shes suggesting a public venue next to where she lives. the main issue is this girl is very low investment and so most likely if you invite her to a bar near your place she wont do it, but at the same time you do not want to meet at a bar near her place either. so this one is probably not gonna go down
i would personally just say fuck it and insist that she comes near my place and / build more investment but this ones probably low probability .
Update: she agreed to meet at a bar that is like halfway through, for our 1st date. We each got one drink, I paid (she didn't offer to pay her part), then suggested we go for a walk on the promenade, then back to my place. She said she barely knows me. Before leaving, we hooked up in her car, but not "all the way". Later, I invited her over to my place for 2nd date, but she again says she barely knows me, even though we already went on one date. I try to find out her what's her concern, but it doesn't seem to get anywhere. I was thinking of "shit testing" her with something like "Admit it, you are interested. Especially with a bad boy like me 😎".
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398 Posts (+1.3K), 16K Cmts (+5.3K)
Yeah, this is why I never do half-way dates because pulling is really difficult. If you have done a bar near your place, you've probably have bee able to pull her. I've looked at the SS and it looks like she got turned off when you invited her to your place. I think it's probably a lost cause. But as a last resource you can offer to meet her at a public place, like at another bar.
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I dont think pictures are in order but i think she's a bit bratty because of 1hr date time difference, being dark both times (idk hows in Sweden or where you're from). If she's hot enough, i'd be persistent. Some girls are like that. Its a good thing you called her out