I am Alex, the creator of PlaingWithFire.. Ask me Anything
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Title says it all. Anything you are curious about feel free to ask. Nothing is off limits
What is the ideal number of matches you should be getting in a day if you swipe for like half hour straight?
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There is a big misconception that the more you swipe the more matches you will get. This was true when tinder was first created, but about a year ago, tinder changed its algorithm where if a girl has swiped right on you it moves her to the front of the que. This means that if you swipe 50 times and the first 20 swipes you get matches, but then the next 30 you dont, that means that the chance of you getting any matches in the next 50 matches is extremely low. The point is that swiping for half an hour is not an effective use of your time and will not contribute to more results
In terms of ho wmany matches is a good amount o f matches in general to expect in a day, a huge factor will come down to wher eyou live. For instance, in miami i might get five or six matches a day. However, with the same profile in colombia or poland i will get over 30 matches a day. The best thing you can do is just pimp out your profile as much as possible and try to max out the matches you can get in whatever area you live in, because comparing preofiles of guys living in different countries or even different cities is apples and oranges
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Swiping for half an hour will absolutely contribute to more results.
The more you swipe, the more matches you will get, because if you swipe right on a girl first, it moves you to the front of her queue, so she'll see you earlier in her queue.
If you sit back and wait on girls to swipe you, all you'll get is "instamatches", and you're missing out on all the potential girls you could be swiping right on first.
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What was the turning point in your pickup career where you decided to actually get really good at thos?
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probably the biggest turning point came when I started working in sales. I was constantly interacting with people and always in a flow state. That definitely expanded my mind and made me change a lot of assumptions I previously held.
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what were you selling, what selling environment do you think would yield the biggest benefits if someone was to try to go that route
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I will give a more specific example of this...for along time i was under the impression that using shirtless pics on tinder is "douchey" and no girl will go for that. Then i read somewhere that it is actually very effectiv for screening for dtf girls. It contradicted everything i believed, but because I was in a frame of mind where i was open to try things i gave it a shot and it worked. Bieng able to question your previously held assumptions, especially if they are not productin gresults, is a very key skill to have
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what to do if the girl wants to meet in a week? how many times do you text her during the week?
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I would meet her in a week, pushing for earlier could come off as needy. During that time, I would send a few value texts here and there. Maybe a funny meme or a pic of me chilling by the pool. Then just confirm the night before " Excited to meet you tomorrow :) "
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Whats your favorite country for ladies?Or your top 3?
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Columbia and Poland are definitely my favorites. I haven't been to South Est Asia or most of South America, so this is just based on the places I have been .
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We’ve heard some snippets about how shitty your health has been lately. What’s the story on that? How has it affected your sex life? How’ve you been handling the fallout of the Vice article? Maybe this would be better in a longer format, giving everyone the rundown on what’s been going on with you the past few months. We miss your insight over in the FB group homie
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I appreciate the love ! One of your questions is really easy so I will start with that: the Vice article has really no effect on me and PWF. The only negative is being excommunicated from FB. On the positive side, it has made PWF more mainstream and I mean that in the good way. After the article, I received several requests for interviews and other small perks. Also, whenever I meet new people and the topic of my work comes up I always mention Vice and get universally positive reactions.
Me: " Yea, Vice just wrote a big piece on me"
Hot girl: " OMG,NO WAY, THAT AWESOME"
The Vice article gave me a day or two of worry , but that is long gone away. And I am happy it happened .Even loosing access to FB motivated me to create this Forums, which I am excited about.
My heath issues are a much more difficult question I could write a million words on this, but here is the summary: there are 2 things going on with me , Lyme disease and the really weird neck injury. The first is under control. The second I am still really strangling with to be honest ,I am doing everything I can and planning to get better soon.
Due to the neck shit, my sex live is not existent, simply my neck hurts too bad for me to bang girls. Believe me , I tried over dozen times . I still occasionally hit on random girls when I running errands. And my "skill" is still more or less the same, but I am waiting for my neck to recover a little more before I go back to " splitting a bottle of my on my romantic patio
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for guys who just have the dna who are just not always on, always want to meet up with a girl or can, and sometimes go a week or two without talking to them, how to keep them sucked in, where i can get interest online and on phone initially but keep them ready to date even if i hit them two weeks later.
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In one of your love reports you mention how you sometimes stay in touch with the girls. Do you just hit em up every other month or so and once they grow more distant/dont really take the initiative to contact you as well you cut them off? I.e. what do you feel like is a decent protocol to retain girls that moved away/are in a different city?
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Social media can be huge here, if you're into it. Instagram in particular. Most of the girls I've slept with in the last year, even the ones I've fallen out of touch with for various reasons, watch my Instagram stories. Good way to keep yourself on their mind and maintain some value.
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I don't really follow any kind of protocol in this situation. I basically just treat them like friends. You would hit your friend up if you thought of something that was relevant to both of you and if you were planing on coming to their city. If for some reason that friend wasn't replying, you would ask them what's wrong , but if they don't respond you might reconsider the friendship.
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Do you always move towards sexting/dirty talk with chicks on tinder? Or do you sometimes just set it up as grabbing a drink or five with only little "sexual" texts beforehand?
Hope you know whatI mean lol
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yes, I know exactly what you mean LOL. To answer your question, I don't always sext . It really depends on the vibe I get from the girl and the mood I am in. Also, the country I am in plays a huge factor. For instance, I would never sext in Columbia or Poland because it will be ineffective there and loose me vast majority of my leads.
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thanks for the reply bro. Good to know since there is good stuff on here regarding sexting etc, but one shouldn't force it in every interaction