I might be thinking too hard on this but I want to get y’all inputs.
I’ve been on three dates with this girl, and it’s always a fun time, and over the dates she is becoming more open/comfortable with me. We’ve only had sex once - on our last date last Tuesday.
However, I seem to be the only one initiating contact/setting up dates, but when I do she’s very receptive and down to hang out.
Now it’s been only three dates so I think it might be too early for her to be initiating contact/setting up dates because girls do take a while before they get completely comfortable with a guy.
Moving forward, I don’t want to establish the fact that I should be the only one setting up dates because I think it shows that I’m too needy.
I’ve decided to give her a one week no contact with her (this plan is ending tmr) to see if she’d initiate contact but I doubt this is going to work because she is heading out of town for the rest of the week.
What are you guys advice to this? How long should I keep initiating contact? Should I keep doing what I’m doing i.e initiating contact/setting up date? I’d appreciate any thought
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I literally posted this exact same question so I'll give my thoughts on it:
I totally agree - it feels weird always being the one to initiate the hangout. Keyword: always. I think occasionally you will meet a more "alpha" type of girl who will initiate it - but a large majority of the time the onus is on you to make plans.
I would say keep hitting her up until she gives a major reason not to (ghosts or becomes super flakey). Especially now that you've had sex, if it was good I can imagine she will be even more receptive - possibly even start hitting you up after getting more comfortable.
Alex suggested this on my post: playfully bring it up to her next time you hang out. Keyword: playfullyyyy - not in a salty "wtf hit me up" kinda way just like a joking way.
Good luck man - keep me posted how it goes - this is a topic of game I am really interested in as it is something I am dealing with myself.