I ran into a situation last night that I know is something a lot of guys struggle with...and that’s what to do when a girl acts like she’s the prize and says things like “you have to earn it” or “you have to impress me”.

So, this is obviously annoying. The two most common responses are

1. Just going with it - the guy will just brush past it thinking that he can won her over in real life. And, things can sometimes play out that way. But, often because you’re going along with her shitty frame she will feel emboldened to flake on you or demand other shit, no bueno

2. Directly challenge her - The guy will say something like “No, you have to impress me”. Unfortunately, this is not that effective because it just creates a confrontational dynamic that leads to blowing out the interaction.

From my experience, the right approach is to actually take her in a different direction and create a “deep” frame. This goes something like “Hey, it’s much better to get to know each other and build chemistry rather then play games”

It’s a frame that she just can’t say no to without coming off as a major piece of shit. I posted screenshots that I think can explain this much better then I could