How to sexualize after a platonic first date?
So I had a park date last week for an hour and a half where I didn't sexualize (embarrassing, yes). I texted her a funny reference from the date a few days later but didn't expect her to actually reply, but she did. Is it going to be weird if I start flirty/sexual banter after a platonic engagement?
I was thinking of doing something like "Can I be honest" and start sexualizing a bit by referencing the first date. I'm looking to hear any other ideas of how you guys have recovered after a sub-par first date.
Thanks as always for the help!
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Why wasn't there sexualizing on the date? I might call it out "we'll have to see each other again. we can ditch the friends act and bring the passion ;)". That's off the top and could be tighter, but I think it's imperative to change the context of the relationship ASAP
Short answer: I was a pussy. Less short answer: My irl game needs way more work than my text game, especially when I don't sexualize over text before the date. I agree, I need to change context asap, and I'm brainstorming for ideas really. Mentally, she's in the "tried and failed" pile for me, so I don't mind trying something that's a bit out there.
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You gotta take risks. Period. Honestly, I feel like if you're not getting rejected sometimes, you're probably not taking on enough risk. Truth is, you'll try to kiss and get shut down sometimes. But after that.... you'll still be alive. Ain't no thing Papi.
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good question and yes it would be weird if you were plantonic on the date and start sexualizing over text, typically you ant to do the opposite of that, sexualize in real life and be a bit more conservative over text, i would just try to get her out again and then sexualize in real life