In response to your original question: you could do what’s been working for me on dates lately and that’s caressing the girl’s legs, arms, or hair, into holding her, into lightly kissing her the whole time listening and replying to her telling you things about herself or her day or whatever you asked her prior. You probably have had to already ran a sexual frame with the girl over text though and of course goes without saying you need to stop and back off a bit if she freaks the fuck out from all the physical touch and escalating, but I’ve yet to have that happen I think because I get sexual over text quite early and often

A girl doesn't have to be drunk to kiss you man lol. Just tell yourself that she's drunk. But that's a bad crutch to have