How do I save this date? I want what I can’t have now.
29 Posts (+4), 67 Cmts (+22)
Matched with this hot Spanish chick. She doesn’t speak much English so communication was hard.
I flirted in English and Spanish and landed a date last Friday.
The day of I hit her up to confirm. She starts texting only in Spanish. So I’m using google translator.
She asks if we can move the time later cause she has to work. Then she says she wants to let me know in advance that she doesn’t split the bill. And she wants to know if I will pick her up.
I joked and said wow so demanding. Then I asked if she doesn’t drive what’s her address.
Then she said Main Street.
This seemed like a red flag so I joked and said that’s a big street, what’s your house number?
Then she said can I come over later at 10 cause she’s still getting ready.
At first this seemed like a set up so I said let’s just meet at the bar at 10, to see her reaction.
She the said forget it never mind. She doesn’t wanna go out anymore and she can’t meet me cause she doesn’t have a car.
I was tired and didn't wanna put up with attitude so I didn’t reply.
But a week later I’m thinking she’s really hot and I want to still hangout. Her instagram seems legit and not like a bot or a set up. Maybe there was genuinely a miscommunication.
What should I say to rekindle this?
(Btw I recently switched gyms to the one she goes to to see if I can accidentally run into her there. No luck so far)
4 Posts (+5), 111 Cmts (+49)
I'd leave it alone tbh, she could be a golddigger. Plenty of other fish in the sea.
6 Posts (+5), 960 Cmts (+749)
Yea before even the date asking not to split bill lol its seems red flag then if u wanna still continue send her the hey girl meme in spanish maybe...
29 Posts (+4), 67 Cmts (+22)
Bro that’s what I’m saying lol big red flag. I wasn’t gonna make her split the bill anyway but the fact that she had to make it known is weird. Like what kinda dates is she used to going on?
I think I might do that, are you talking about the Ryan Gosling meme in Spanish? Cause I’ve already texted her “hola linda” and “hola chica” before.
Part of me doesn’t want to give her the power to ghost me but I think I don’t have a choice but to reengage in text. I was hoping to run into her at the gym but it’s hard to time it right.
If she wasn’t so hot I would take the red flag and run. But in this case I’ll ignore the red flag to have a chance to hit and quit
6 Posts (+5), 960 Cmts (+749)
And try to disqualify the sex though like "i dont wanna hook up one first date btw but if you are here only for multiple screaming orgams and squirting i understand" this might lower her anti sult defense
15 Posts (+3), 479 Cmts (+240)
Maybe you dodged a bullet. If she doesn't split the bill and doesn't have a car, she's probably broke lol.
Anyway, if a girl starts to get defensive or seems like she's going to unmatch or cancel a date, I usually see this as a red flag. In my case, it's usually been me getting sus and starting to call out a cat fish and the girl gets mad but I'm 90% I've been right about those 3 girls I've encountered.
29 Posts (+4), 67 Cmts (+22)
Yeah I guess I dodged a bullet but I’m curious to know what dat mouf do. She’s just really hot and has a public instagram where there’s half naked pics and thirst traps like crazy on there.
I’m no simp so when she started to get red flaggy and defensive I just kept my abundance mindset and didn’t take her out that night.
But now part of me is like damn I’d still like to hit and quit. Nothing to take seriously.
I’m wondering if my ghosting actually pissed her off and now she’s interested in me more for my carelessness.
I thought about shooting her a text message but I don’t want to give her the power of ghosting me. But I guess I have no choice. Hoping I run into her one day at the gym but that’s hit or miss.
15 Posts (+3), 479 Cmts (+240)
If you think she’s for sure down for ONS and you DGAF.. go for it. I just wouldn’t pursue her beyond that lol