Hey guys, would really appreciate your help with this. When I went for the soft close she turned it into a virtual happy hour. I'm not good at flirting over phone/video , so I feel like doing it virtually is going to kill my chances. Was trying to address her concerns and push for in person, but she stopped responding after the last message (before this she was very responsive). Planning to reengage in 2 days, but need to know what to say/how to bring this back.
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She seems very insistent on the virtual date. I would probably just move on. I probably would’ve handled the situation differently initially though. When she said “let’s start with blah”
I’d say “I honestly prefer to meet people in real life. Much more authentic that way”
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Thanks man, yeah it seems like a lost cause. I'll probably agree to the virtual date and just take it as an opportunity to improve my game. Any advice on trying to escalate virtually through drinking games or something like that? I've seen you sometimes FaceTime the girl in your LRs, how long do those calls last and what do you talk about?
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That's honestly not an area I have much experience in. I'm pretty adamant about avoiding virtual dates. The stuff you're referring to is quick phone calls, but usually those don't last more then 20 minutes. During that time I banter, shoot the shit, tease them, make sexual innuendos, & most importantly set up a date. I've posted a few "in-field" videos of phone calls to the mastermind group on Facebook, so check those out for examples as well.
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I would actually go for a take away because you pushed for an in-person meetup. I'd say - "If you're too uncomfortable, we can see if we have chemistry over the phone." I would say learn how to flirt over the phone. Its something I'm struggling with myself, but that's how you grow.
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Thanks bro. Any resources for learning flirting over the phone? My big problem is not being able to back up my witty and flirty texts with real time conversation. I can't come up with good banter, so I end up going too safe and it becomes like an interview with no sexual tension. Doing it over FaceTime is even worse because it just amplifies the awkwardness when things don't flow. I have this problem in person as well, but I'm usually able to get past it and close with alcohol + physical escalation.
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I'm no expert but my flirting has improved a lot after watching Craig Ferguson show. Russell Brand is amazing as well but I can't resonate with him.