So i have the first date down so well i can make out with the girl at the bar within 30 minutes and pull home. Sometimes they want to wait until the second date and they will text me everyday and even send me dirty pics without me asking.
second date always happens after a first date 100 percent of the time and the girl sometimes will even ask me on that date. if we didnt hook up on the first date it 100 percent happens on the second date.
but then the girl either cancels the third date or ghosts. the texts slow down and eventually stop. I have had these girls say. "I walk with purpose, you're so hot, this was easily one of the best dates I've ever had, you are so funny, we always have so much fun together" yet I can't get the third date. they move on. even with girls I was eh about they ghost me. in the last 6 months I have noticed that every girl I go on dates with want to text every single day. I will reply but i eventually stop after i set up a date. then i follow up the day of. rinse and repeat. basically every girl has complained about not texting every day and that my texts lack something, but they aren't sure what.
If you guys can provide any help to get me over this wall id greatly appreciate it
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how do you meet most of your girls is it online or daygame
because most of the online girls have tons of options and they are usually not relationship material
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It could be any number or things
It could be they don’t think the sex is great between you two
It could be they are looking for more of a relationship And you may be giving off the wrong vibe
It could be they don’t think you’re interested in anything but hooking up bc of you’re lack of texting after the date
Personally for me even if I’m just hooking up with the chick as a fwb I still will keep the banter and flirting going until the next date. This doesn’t mean you have to spend all day texting her, but you don’t also want to just ignore her until the date. I’ve never personally believed in that advice especially if you’ve had several good dates with them.
If you’re doing the same thing over and over again but getting the same result I would imagine it’s one of those things, especially if they’re saying what you’re claiming. Next date you have Try keeping the interaction alive after the date via text but not in a needy way and see what happens
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yea I'm not sure how to make them think i might want more than just a hookup - I do think that is an issue especially since I don't text a lot after. I never ignore the girls but i start spreading out my texts more and if its past 10 I usually wait until 1 pm the next day to reply. luckily as far as i know i dont come off as needy. always wait a couple days if they dont reply. invite them to my comedy shows (shows value) etc. but yes i will try to do that. thank you
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I feel for you dawg I have the same issue and I can’t pinpoint what exactly the issue is either. I had this one chick pull her Scheduke up day off date and ask me if i was free just to ghost me lol .