Hey guys. I was talking to a girl on Tinder and she eventually gave me her number after agreeing to meet for an ice cream. (Don't mind the ice cream thing, it's just a strategy of mine).
We had the last exchange over WhatsApp via voice notes so I can't just post screenshots but I'll try to be accurate.
Her: Yes I'm down, we'll see on Friday (Contradictory?) I don't know how to get to (Place were we would meet) from my home but I'll figure it out.
Me: Ok cool, I think 6pm would work great. See you then.
Her: All right. Before I confirm tho, I don't know if I'll be working or something so I'll let you know before if can can do it. (Waiting for her to confirm last minute? Hell no!)
Me: Oh don't worry about it. Tell me how's your schedule looking so we can do it when you know for sure you'll be free. If I wait for you to confirm and you say no I won't have time to make other plans, so...
She left the voice note on read and didn't respond since yesterday afternoon.
Did I handle this poorly?
How should I reengage and after how much longer?
Thanks
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Not poorly, you had the right idea. If it was easy for you, I would have just said, yeah sure. But if you wanted to be more sure then what you did was correct, you just needed to soften/play it up a little. When you said other plans, she must have thought you meant another woman. Also, she mentioned it might be hard for her to get to you, so she might be offended.
"we could do that, or how about we find a day that you know you won't be rushed, and meet then ;)" (I could pick you up/meet you halfway if that makes it easier for you)
And if you have to say what you're doing say gym, rather know so I know for sure so I don't miss gym practice, gotta look fit for when we meet
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I would’ve just liked her message. And then she would’ve likely double texted. Keep things simple as possible