Had sex with girl after first date but couldn’t get hard
4 Posts (+2), 6 Cmts (+2)
I went on a hinge first date with a girl that was quite hot, and I wasn’t expecting much but it went really well. We had a lot of chemistry, I could tell she liked me, we both got really drunk and we ended up at her place having sex. We fucked in missionary for only a couple minutes fine but when we went to doggy I started going limp and couldn’t maintain an erection. It got a bit awkward and then we both decided it wasn’t happening. I wanted to stay over and try again in the morning but it was gone 2 and she had work at 8am and she asked me to leave which felt like a massive downer on what was a really good date. The last thing that we’ll remember from what was a really good date will be her asking me to leave cos I couldn’t get it up lol.
She said at the time she’d want to try again another time but I feel like I might’ve fucked it. I’m pretty certain it’s because I was so drunk (happened to me a couple of times with my ex) so if I linked up with her again, I’d just take viagra as a precaution to make sure it doesn’t happen twice in a row.
The last text interaction was me telling her I got home alright, and she replied “glad you got home safe!”
How do you guys think I should approach the situation? The date did go really well and I could tell she fancied me, but I could also tell she was looking for more of a fuck buddy atm probs cos she’s going travelling. So the fact that she thinks I can’t get hard might be a big turnoff for her. Should I try make conversation and link her asap, or should I leave it a bit and hit her up in a few weeks?
6 Posts (+5), 960 Cmts (+749)
Tell her the truth u could not get hard due to u being drunk and all and setup another date to show her a good time
393 Posts (+1.3K), 15K Cmts (+5.3K)
don't expect much because she probably was expecting to get pleasure and she never received. Next time this happens, just try to eat pussy or use a toy on her
32 Posts (+21), 576 Cmts (+276)
did you still get her off? usually that helps, also better to have said the drunk reason in person.
I'd just hit her up with something like:
"had fun, we should do it again sometime, minus me shooting myself in the foot by drinking too much haha smh
or something probably more tailored with what you said to her or something she'd understand or get the message/hint
If the girl was hot, I'd probably just facetime her and joke / continue good conversation. Hot girls usually have higher self esteem so if one can't get it up, its usually over.