Got the "I'm not looking to meet anyone at the moment due to bad breakup" Objection. How to proceed?
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Long story short, talked to some girl at the bar, we exchanged numbers, and we been sporadically texting 2-3 weeks trying to setup a date, but failing due to busy schedules.
Last night, she texted me that she wants to meet me around midnight (booty call I assume) "Can't, I have other plans" I replied. (I really had plans)
So today, we continued texting, she agreed that we meet in the next few days. Then while we were scheduling she suddenly out of nowhere threw me a "Actually, I'm not looking to meet anyone at the moment" curveball. This was the convo:
Me: Let's meet in the next few days (voice memo)
Her: Yes, Let's do it!
Me: What's your schedule like?
Her: Actually I don't want to meet up really, have some things in my head, I don't want to meet anyone at the moment.
Whole thing spiraled out of control, and I couldn't get things back on track no matter what. Rest of convo is me trying to uncover what the real objection is and solve it. She was throwing me a bunch of fakes, one after another. After I thought I had it figured out I blew up the "....ending things here would be anticlimactic" nuke on an fake objection (it flopped ofc)
As a last ditch effort I threw the "I feel you actually had a bad breakup recently" cold read and she started opening up again, saying that it was that what was actually troubling her.
Is there a way to salvage this? How should I proceed?
Thanks.
@avilench . always brings the magic here...
(my thoughts:)
"I get it, you don't want anything serious until your head's straight again..."
"After a breakup you forget how fun it is to just hang out and vibe with no expectations"
"Worried that you'll just use me as a rebound guy? Don't be, I'm cool with whatever happens, long as we respect each other"
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Thanks. I like these and I could deff use them in future when similar issue arise. But I can't really see them apply to my current situation.
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I'd say: sorry to hear, bad break ups are tough. what are you concerned about with our date? Fortunately we'll have fun and melt any stress away with some cathartic laughs

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I would try something like "I'm confused. Where's this coming from?"
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Wish I knew this 30 texts before, think I blew it at this point...At least I know for next one, cheers