From Good Banter, to Plans, to Ghosted. Trying to figure out what the hell

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Hi there. I met this cute girl on tinder. Had good banter, funny vibe going on for a few days. Got her # and ig. She was responding well. I soft closed her and later set date and time, but she flaked on me first time. She said I didn't messaged her the days leading up to our date, etc. Fine, I restarted the vibe and soft closed her once again, set the date, kept the banter going a bit, then she just disappeared in middle of banter/teasing convo. It's been a week. The screenshots are of convo right after first flake, all the way to ghosting. I'd like to know what you guys think of re-engaging her and how (calling her out or tesingly) or if I should just move on. Or is she a case of them girls that are not serious about meeting up. You're POV is greatly appreciated. Cheers

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J

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You need some honesty man. The text game needs serious work. You are way too nice guy/young sounding. Cut out the emojis and be more confident. Watch some PWF texting vids and go from there.

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W

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Thanks man. Im here for the tough love, not bs. The emoji thing was an inside joke. I don't usually, but she was like an emoji nazi. I was trying to match but think it looked like I fell in her frame

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J

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Yeah man for sure. I used to think I needed to be really funny/clever over text to stand out, but you don't.
The more simple the better. This will get her to chase you instead of the other way around.

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H

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That last message of yours was super needy. "Sorry for my last message. please, I really hope you didn't misunderstand me. How was your weekend?"
I think this one is lost. If you have her IG, then you can show value through that and maybe re-engage at a later stage again.

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W

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Thanks Herb. I debated about sending this one, but she had already not responded in over a day. Since I thought we had good banter going on I thought maybe she misread/misunderstood and I wanted to clarify. Anyways, lesson learned.

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avilench . Avatar

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There's way too much investment on your end man. And that's some weird pointless overly gamey texting. Take a look at some of my videos on how to set up a date over text

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W

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Gotcha. There was some call back humor embeded in there, but to your point- unnecessary and too much investment from my end. Thanks man.
One last thing, would you try to re-engage or chuck it?

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