Flirty became unexcited, how to proceed?

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J

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J

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Context: Facebook Dating in big Eastern European city. She's from even former Soviet country.
Some age gap: I'm 41, she 29.
Her profile has no text but 3 somewhat sexual photos.

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J

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Seems like you're overinvesting a bit. The middle of the convo is basically you send 3-4 lines and her sending a few words. I'd recommend reading a few of Alex's LR. He does a great job sending 1 lines of texts to get them invested. As played she gives you a pretty bland response. I mostly use takeaways to deal with silence, but you can also use them when she gives answers like these. Something like "If you're into that sort of thing" or "love the enthusiasm ;)"

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J

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Thank for your comment, got your point.
I know the idea of sending short text to get her invested. Tried to keep mine as short as possible, maybe even shorter is possible.
Went now with "love the enthusiasm" (without the smiley, found it too "nice"). Let's see what we get.

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avilench . Avatar

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Hey man, please post as individual screenshots. It uploaded as one big screenshot and when you try to read the text its extremely blurry.

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J

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The story continued. Pretty surprising to me.
How would you continue?

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avilench . Avatar

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"What are you talking about? I'm trying to make plans but you keep disappearing on me"

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J

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OK, here you go.
For the record, I've already continued with "love the enthusiasm".
But curious, what might have been better. Or what this chat still might need in general.

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J

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J

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agree with Alex but why did you go off the go soft win close line? I would have wrote "Let's find the other ones, do you like wine" she says yes and I would have responded with "great, we should split a bottle of red soon." then ask her what her schedule's like this week.

It's not hard, I think you just tried to get too sophisticated with your soft close and she needed a direct close (also consider English doesn't appear to be her first language so a subtle / indirect line like "But have wine before." probably didn't make sense to her.

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