Fail Report _ Hot Mom from DTF to Snapping over Takeway

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Hey guys, sharing an interesting case I had with this hot mom. We matched on Hinge and followed the great PWF structure : Opener, Build Investment, Soft Close, Hard Close, Confirmation and Address Concerns (if any). Girl was DTF from her text til hard close. However, slowed responding for whatever reasons which I addressed by mild takeway and ended up calling her out with the infamous " I genuinely didn't take you for the flakey type ".

Not the first time I use the line and it always works. This first time went the opposite way and girl said she didn't like the tone of the text. One might argue that the line wasn't rightly placed, I don't think so.

However, I think my response to her reaction was definitely sub-optimal and should be better. Keen to hear your views guys @avilench and how would you have handled it. Is there a way to restart the conversation or totally dead ? We learn from mistakes.

Thanks everyone.

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avilench . Avatar

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Unfortunately this is done man. You went into a frame battle with her and she got quite defensive in the end

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Many thanks avilench .. I re-engaged with a strong message after two weeks and she replied showing compliance. Seems re-engaged... Should I soft close directly or build investment again ? thanks

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avilench . Avatar

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"I pinky swear"

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I think you were pushing too hard for the meetup also dont like your text of “next time, hey hottie works” I would of just replaced that with “How’s your Thirsty Thursday going” or whatever day it was and then get the vibe going again from there. I think it’s dead though I’d just move on to the next one

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Thanks for the feedback Hugh. Will implement this next time.

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