Engage her so she doesn't flake (Urgent)

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Hello.
I meet a girl through tinder, she got my attention as she gives me the impression of being my type.

We talked and she gave me her ig to set our date. We talked about going for drinks (yeah she can drink, I'm not in the US) and she said " i would like that". The thing is that in every part of the logistics, even tho she did put effort on sorting things out, she never explicitly confirmed she agreed on these things. For instance, when she suggested that we should meet where she lives or where i live, and i said i preferred going to her, she didn't say "ok" , but instead just moved on to discussing the hour and stuff.

Because she didn't explicitly express her agreement on the terms of our date, i acted as if it was a reality and said things like "when we meet on Friday....blah blah" as to let her know I did perceive that way, offering a window for her to state the contrary, but she never did.

I tried to close with and "alright, until then" but she ignored and just corrected some trivial thing she said earlier. I tried to close again but with a joke, she just replied "hahahahahahahaha".

Point is, I'm frustrated because I feel like the date has been set clearly enough for me to come off as insecure if I ask, but not enough so I feel like it's going to happen. I feel like she's going to flake. Tomorrow will be the night before our date so I was thinking on confirming indirectly then, asking for the location were she lives to meet there.

I feel like she probably has not made up her mind yet and i can convince her if make things engaging when I text her to confirm tomorrow. But I don't know what to say to make her excited. Any recommendations?

Can't post screenshots because we didn't speak in english and there's voice notes, but general advice would be appreciated

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post the screen shots man, and ill take a look. Its hard for me to give you accurate feedback without that

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Okay, here they are.

The voice notes were

VN 1: "I love to walk so that day i might get to ciudad Córdoba on foot, but you know the place better so you can tell me if you think it's a good idea" (it's kind of a dangerous neighborhood).

VN 2: "Because there will be alcohol involved i can't take my cat with me though. I hope it's not a problem" (On tinder we joked about my cat telling me to marry her and her saying she had to discuss it with him)

As I mentioned, i would really appreciate advice on how to spark her interest when I reach out to confirm the night before our date. So that way she gets invested and doesn't flake.

Thanks man

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avilench . Avatar

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lol dude I dont speak spanish that well. Your going to have to translate it into english for me to evaluate it and give feedback.

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