When one spends several days procrastinating and not socializing, it becomes, at least for me, extremely hard to cold approach. And it gets very confusing, because one may think, he is nervous because he is not of that high value. And the same happens when texting. When one hasn't texted a new girl in a long time, the texting is not usually good I think. When one has like 5 active new chats, and just started a new one, it gets very easy to flirt and get her interested; very easy to escalate, because the recent memory of the brain just went through that same situation.

This makes me think, does it all boils down to social momentum/life momentum? Think about it. From an evolutionary perspective it makes sense because one individual who has been frequently social within the population, it means that it has been most likely socially approved. It might be a defense mechanism for the population as a whole. Have the women breed with those socially approved, deemed to be safe.

Then there's another point: for a man to be socially accepted, he needs to have good mood. That also depends on the recent memory of the brain. Like if you have a shitty life, that will affect your mood, and therefore your social momentum. So your behavior with a new girl, really, reflects your behavior with other people and your life in general. Also, consider this: when a guy has already been socially approved, and has been dating several decent girls, then he will feel a lot more confident to cold approach and escalate with hotter girls. Remember what that means, if he is able to get laid with hot women, that means that guy is not any guy. He is someone who has reached a superior social status.

But why are there some guys who are a mess in life who are sometimes seen with hot girls? My hypothesis is that they are social and get some help of a substance (alcohol, smoking, meds, drugs) to artificially get the good mood and clear mind.

What are your thoughts?