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Not a shit test, an enquiry about why you're such a perfect match. The power frame is "you seem to have qualities that I look for as a discerning high-value master of the universe". You put that in words like "You look like you have 2 of my weaknesses, maybe 3"
Now you don't have much choice but to finish what you've started. Wait a good bit of time, 48hrs+, and send a proper takeaway. ”If you’re too nervous, I’d understand”
I think when I get matches like these, I get so impatient texting because I think she's going to leave me on read at any time (which has happened before while it seemed we were vibing). So I rush to get the number.
5 Posts (+2), 372 Cmts (+206)
A common problem... but step back and see how that belief leads to bad texting and the whiff of desperation, which creates the very outcome you're trying to avoid.
10 Posts (+1), 471 Cmts (+173)
I don't know about that takeaway, in most situations it is not pushy. But in this one though, he went for the number prematurely and saying, "If you're too nervous, I'd understand" would be sticking with his question again, which is too needy. You need to back off this one and say something like "If that's cool"
10 Posts (+1), 471 Cmts (+173)
You failed this shit test. Don't qualify yourself, just say "yes. " The second big reason you failed it is because you escalated on a shit test, never do that. Keep your answers as short as possible. This is a hard but you should go with. "If that's cool"
5 Posts (+2), 372 Cmts (+206)
Makes no sense bro... nothing in the last message was qualifying, and saying "of course" is no different to saying "yes". Despite popular belief "If that's cool" is not a takeaway... it doesn't take attention away it just asks for her approval and makes her the judge of what's cool.
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It kinda does make sense. It's better to just say yes , but also just saying of course does work as well. And, you're right actually, qualifying was not the word I was looking for. But I will say this... It does surprise me that you are in the mastermind, and you believe "if that's cool," no offense, is not a takeaway. Especially in this situation, it is the only one that fits, and it doesn't take attention away from his text, nor does it ask for approval. It's a non-needy nudge that sticks with the frame. Not doing this would skip the opportunity for her to invest in, which is what you want her to do here... What would you say though , @[Max Fox]
Is there even a way to salvage the conversation?
10 Posts (+1), 471 Cmts (+173)
It's ok man, everyone's text game, even mine, sucked at one point. Right here, you already skipped lots of steps closing and you went for the number prematurely. You don't want to push even a little anymore because of how hard you pushed for the number without setting up plans. You also do not want to change the topic because you committed yourself to get the number. Do a slight takeaway like, "If that's cool" and tell me what she says after that ;)
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I would've said "takes after her owner ;)" in that very early text to set the tone.