So last night I went to a bar, was talking to a girl who was single and I tried to escalate multiple times without success. But she always wanted to talk to me, at the end of the night I went back home with her but she didn’t want me to go in her apartment. So I got the number and left. She just wrote me a long message basically friend zoning me. How tf did I get friend zoned within 3 hours lmao? Is it because I came off as too feminine? Or what could cause this
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Because you spent 3 hours. That's way too long to spend time with someone without her responding well to your escalation. So, even if she was interested, the fact that you stayed so long with her made you lose massive attraction points
"You're so right. I only see a friend in you. You're too innocent and prudish for my tastes. So, I'd rather stick to being friends and go to movies. You can make a really good wing girl actually"
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Can't really say what went wrong without hearing how the conversation went. If I had to guess, your conversation was probably too platonic, so your attempts to escalate didn't match the vibe of the conversation.