Glad to hear man. Pretty much every girl is sexually submissive. The question is to what extent. Some just like to be lightly spanked & choked. While others want to be tied up, cock slapped, and humiliated.

A girl who identifies as a sub will be more on the submissive spectrum, but to what extent can vary. Words like “dom” and “sub” are very liberally used so don’t feel intimidated.

I recommend reading 50 shades of grey or some book that lightly touches on the dom sub dynamic so you have an idea and then just rolling with it. You don’t have to be super sexual, you can keep it more vague if you’d like.

There are two things that you can’t do as a “dom”

1. seem unsure of unconfident - this is the biggest one. You are a man who knows what he wants and isn’t afraid to go for it. You are always driving the car. You can never let the chick grab the wheel

2. ashamed of sexuality - you have zero hang ups about sex or being dominant or bdsm.

Keep us updated on how it goes man

You shouldn't include BDSM if you're not into it or a Dom yourself man. That's faking big time and not authentic at all. Girls will notice that sooner or later. Just find other ways to polarize sexually

A note from Dr Killjoy: the basics of choking are, don't actually choke people. Pretending's fine, a hand around the throat is all good fun, but don't apply pressure unless someone's shown you how it's done. If you're new to BDSM, you shouldn't be interfering with someone's circulation or air supply.