“Hope I didn’t make you shy”

Gotta build more investment on this one buddy.. coupd go with "dont get too excited now" or "if you're cool with that"

Use something along the lines of if you’re into that sort of thing

Probably could've played the wine card or something where you guys can meet in person.

i think what happened here was that you sexualized a bit to fast or she just might be a bit too prude. Or likely a combination of both. You can follow up with "if your into that sort of thing"